BDSM novels provided no relief, either; with their protocols, safe-words, props, ad theatrics—all feel as tedious to me as a Japanese tea ceremony. Or just like horny LARPing.

Wait, he got off this lightly and he didn’t even have to admit that he did anything wrong or take any responsibility for his actions? That’s obscene. If he plead guilty would he have served any time?

Fair enough, I just wish the article had gone into that more, Tracy seems pretty uncritical of the researchers and their methodology.

If you say so. I only read the abstract of the study and this article, so I have no idea how much of an issue those things are.

So it’s not the results you’re concerned with, it’s the intentions of the researcher and their interpretation of the results?

“It does tell us how men think women think.”

I agree, when I said “why are you asking this?” I was referring specifically to the bolded part of the quote. It felt like she was implying that everything she said in those two paragraphs was from attempting to interpret the results, when it obviously wasn’t.

Is this how men think it ought to work? Do they seem themselves as so interchangeable, so off-the-rack, so able to swoop in strategically on a down-cycle like only a Less Attractive Man would? Have they absorbed and internalized a culture that tells them they are great but disposable, and so they imagine that women…

Well half of that applies to me. :P

This is why I always roll my eyes at all that “just act confident” and “fake it till you make it!” advice that gets thrown around when it comes to dating. Us shy dudes obviously just need to accept our beta status and stop embarrassing ourselves by trying to pretend we’re anything else.

Well I’m still sceptical, since she seems to be saying that inexperienced + drunken hookups only = acceptable, but inexperienced + virgin = unacceptable. So, I can see why the guy would think it wasn’t that big a of deal. But hey, it seems like he’s an asshole so who knows.

Idiot college bros can’t commit sexual assault? The scary part about the scenario the girl described is that if the dude had done it to another girl who gave in or couldn’t push him off he would already be a rapist. This guy does not deserve the benefit of the doubt.

After she physically pushed him off he continued to badger her and demand an explanation repeatedly, with the fact that she doesn’t want to have sex not being good enough. As she tells it the only thing that will get him to stop is to effectively threaten to dump him. He’s shown that her feelings on whether she wants…

You’re in a public forum, giving out advice to far more people than the letter writer. You have a responsibility to call out abusive behaviour as far more than dickishness. In the past it seems like you’ve been more than willing to tell letter writers “This behavious is far worse than you think it is and is a red flag…

As she tells it, he didn’t lie, he told her the truth when she asked. If it’s that much of a dealbreaker for her then it’s on her to ask, especially when she already knew he was inexperienced. Maybe before she asked he thought she knew and that she was making an exception because she was into him. Or that she’d…

I don’t really blame the second guy for lying about being a virgin. Your sexual history is your own business, whether you’ve fucked zero people or a thousand. You don’t owe anyone else an explanation.

Yeah, you tell those fucking fatties! That’ll teach ‘em!

I read this hentai too.

Her judo in the UFC has been devastating despite her opponents only wearing sheer tops and shorts. Judokas are also great at trips, which don’t need any sort of clothes to hold on to. If for some reason she had to fight a naked person she’d do fine.

I don’t think they did, they just knew that they’d lose more English voters if they didn’t campaign against indepence.