I can't even give him that. My ex was sexually abused by his stepfather for years. It was not violent. However it was exceptionally brutal to his sense of self and forgive the melodrama but his soul. He was mentally raped as much as he was physically raped. To say that physical force is required for rape to be…

We don't have a long standing precedent of blaming victims or making up myths that blame victims in cases of robbery or identity theft etc. There is no shame in saying someone broke into my house and stole XYZ. Police don't say things like well you donate to charity, could it be you let them into your house to take…

That person is a rapist. He intends to be alone with the most intoxicated person at the party and just telling women not to drink doesn't change his predatory behaviour. People recognizing that he is a sexual predator and intervening in the situation prevents him from being able to act. Instead of advising women on…

Also, there are many cases where people come forward to file a complaint against a serial rapist (or remind the police of a previous complaint) when they see their rapist in the news for raping someone else. This is vital when investigating a serial rapist because it establishes a pattern of behavior. If there's a…

Look, we all know that you don't actually want an answer, that you believe that you found a "gotcha" that will allow you to continue blaming rape victims and feeling awesome about it. That's why I'll answer your moronic question.

If you think it's possible to have rape without brutality then yes you are conflating brutality and violence. Rape is a brutal act whether it is done by coercion, physical force or grooming. Violating someone sexually against their consent is brutal by definition. You seem to be saying that if a rape is not physically…

Did she consent? No? Then it's brutal.

I think you are conflating brutal and violent. I don't think the OP is saying that every rape involves physical force. I think she is saying that every rape is received by the victim as a brutal act if not physically then mentally/psychologically.

I'm not surprised. This is from the same police department that sent an officer to my apartment to take my statement (after I had been drugged at a party and ended up in the ER not breathing) who, upon hearing my story said to me:

"I don't believe you, I think you are lying. I'm going to file your report but I'm also…

I don't usually respond to stuff like this, but the whole mind-control angle sets me off. please, whoever you are, get help. Go to your local hospital and ask them to hold you for a psych eval. Please. You need help.

I wish there were better journalism standards on writing about rape and sexual assault. One of my local papers keeps writing"non-consensual sex" when describing rape, and no matter how many complaints about it, they won't change it.

the DOJ interviewed 30 women who had dealt with MCAO over their sexual assault cases, numerous law enforcement officials, victim advocacy organizations and many police detectives, among others.

As much as I like Arya I am more interested in Sansa.

Did you misinterpret what I said? In order to get your marriage recognized by the state, and get all of the associated rights and protections, all you have to do is go downtown and fill out some paperwork. Unless you are gay, then in most states you can't. That's what the whole gay marriage fight is about; gays want…

I GOT YOU COVERED.

I do not currently have access to my cache of gifs, but I think we all know what Karen Walker would say about this little peek-a-boo situation...

I think we basically agree. Dude was using rape threats essentially as a crutch, because he's a shitty rapper. Understand that I'm not calling him a rapist—I'm saying that as a woman, there is no suspension of my lived reality as a woman. These are very different things, and this is important—I want you to get this,…

Being a bully does not mean you deserve to be implicated as responsible for another person's suicide. Especially a family members. Especially a sibling's.

Chocolate is gender-neutral.

In my first year of uni I was once stuck in a coach station for hours with a group of beloved guy friends. We swapped around all our books and magazines and I ended up flicking through Nuts and Zoo while they read my movie mags. It was almost ten years ago now but I vividly recall sitting quietly in that corner and…