Why are we calling him a troll not a bully? The way I see it, he was harrassing and verbally abusing her. It seems and understatement to call him a "troll".

I think it's a reference to the expression "getting raped" which some people use to say "losing very badly".

I don't think he means that Hoffman was stupid, I think his point was that unnecesary deaths, like those caused by drug abuse, are stupid. It's so unnecesary. He should have been in rehab, getting the help he needed, and he could have lived another thirty years. I'm not faulting him, because he was sick, but it just…

By your own logic, you would have to worry about him getting every girl pregnant.

Yeah, thanks for the help!

I don't understand the assertion that "she had no idea that she was walking into a political lions den". Did she really not know that? Is that something she has said herself? Or they trying to make her more of a victim than she was. And when I say "more of a victim" I don't mean that she wasn't 100% a victim of sexual…

I hope you don't mind my asking, but is womanism a kind of feminism or an alternative to feminism? I didn't know the word until a week ago and have been trying to understand it. If you can suggest a good womanist blogger or book, I would really appreciate it. :-)
Sorry about off topic!

It's completely different: women are SUPPOSED to be judged by our husbands. That's why we take their last name. But judging a man by his wife? Well that would be as silly as judging him by any other piece of his property!
/sarcasm off

Atleast one guy walks into a with a drunk and half asleep girl and puts his **** in her. What about it doesn't read as rape? Because they were "kind" enough to stop after she cried and said no?

It would definitely be used by the defense, but it's not unusual. Many women become more promiscuous shortly after rape, possibly as an attempt to devalue the experience or in order to regain control of their own sexuality.

Speaking as a person who has been attacked, fighting back isn't the most usual course of action. When confronted with a person with more power than oneself, self preservation and shock kick in and "just stranding there" is a completely normal reaction and decreases the risk of escalation. The same goes for harrassment…

Or, more likely, she sent the harrassment to a friend and asked her to share it so she could stay anonymous and preserve her career.

Good thing you got away from that guy! It really bothers me that the police didn't lift a finger, it doesn't help your faith in authorities. I can't decide whether to feel relieved about not being alone with the story or heartbroken by it. It must be such a betrayal coming from an ex!

Oh, wow. I didn't realize I was talking to one of you guys!

Thanks, and I'm so sorry! It was terrible. My dad is pretty old school, so I was mostly worried about someone knocking on the door and him opening. I suspect the person who did it was a thirty-something-year-old porn producer who wanted my eighteen-year-old self to be in his movies and was very angry at me for…

A second ago you were accusing her of leading him on, and now you don't understand why women don't feel it is likely that their employers will take our side in cases of sexual harrassment...

When I was 18 a guy posed as me on chatsites. He advertised me as a prostitute and gave "potential clients" my full name, phone number, and address. I found out when a man called to set up an appointment. I was still living with my parents and lived in complete fear of someone showing up at our doorstep. I contacted…

Also, women don't have the luxury of ignoring every coworker or business contact who expresses an interest in having sex with us. It would leave us without a job.

It kind of worries me that you consider her very few comments as "toying with him". She is in a vulnerable position because, as a game reviewer, he is in a position to harm her reputation with her employers. If she tells him to stop his behavior, he may accuse her of being uncooperative and boycott her company, and…

Because he's a work contact, and calling a work contact out on sexual harrassment gets you really unpopular to the point that it can potentially ruin your career. That is probably also why she wants to be anonymous. Getting a reputation as a "uncooperative bitch" could get her fired.