Maybe he meant north and east? I dunno. He’s an idiot.

He has a beautiful body, but his head is just all frat boy. I just can’t get into him.

He’s an attractive guy, but I still think of him as a boy. I’ve crossed into the age range where if I’ve seen the actor since he was a child (like with Dev) then it’s hard for me to see him as a man later. If he just came onto the scene now, looking like that, yes I’d be on board.

My experience was very similar to that, but I had a friend who was f-buddies with one of the dancers and so the het flirting was real. We went with someone’s 30th bday, and got a private dance for the bday gal. My friend’s buddy came along, flirted with my friend and the rest of his. After hours, we met up with those…

No. He wants attention for his opinions on his own terms. This feeling that he is entitled to attention from other people on his own terms is what led him to follow this people and shout at them in the first place. Now he wants to make it sound less threatening- we’ll sit down and talk- but the core issue is still the…

I think it’s code for: “I have an opinion about you that you must hear/clarify/respond to regardless of whatever else you might be doing right now because you are obligated to talk to me about my opinions about you or else you are a narrowminded asshole.” It’s the same line of logic that cat-callers use when they…

Yeah that’s what I thought too. But I don’t know why we’d celebrate that. I mean, Macron is a prick, and this just shows that he’s as macho-insecure as Trump which is pathetic. This whole pissing contest is stupid.

Well that was true back in that time. It’s not true now. A lot of us who aren’t in health care maybe don’t know that it’s changed. I didn’t until a few years back when a friend with HIV clarified for me. Managing the “cocktail” in the early days was actually a big deal b/c different drugs had different side effects,…

Yea as soon as I typed that, I thought to myself, I don’t actually know much about Crohn’s Disease. I just grabbed that word because I have a friend that has it, but she does not take daily medication. Beyond that, I don’t really know what it is about. Another person here pointed out diabetes as another example of a…

Oh Jesus can you see my eyes rolling? We are having a discussion online. Nobody is demanding shit from anyone else, C’mon. You are way overthinking all of this and tone policing at that. This was a conversation between family members, both of whom affected by HIV with results separated by generations. It’s totally…

Yeah but I don’t think it’s just young people. I was talking to a buddy about prep recently and he told me that he basically can’t get guys to wear condoms anymore, that they say that since they are on prep, no reason. He’s in his 40s, and lots of people he dates are HIV+ (though undetectable loads) so it’s not like…

Thanks for those stats. That gives perspective. I guess I was thinking about how HPV and herpes are basically the norm now and that HIV could become likely that.

Yes that’s a good analogy. I’m curious about how valid a threat it is that we could have some sort of pharmaceutical crisis? Seems like there are a lot of people totally dependent on taking meds every day. I know this is not a new thing nor a new thought, but this article has gotten me thinking about how normal it…

I love that this happened. However, revisiting goatse and comparing my shoulder-shrug response now to the existential horror I felt when I first viewed it in the early days of online makes me realize how the internet has basically numbed my soul and left me jaded to everything under the sun. This is why we have Trump,…

This is a conversation between relatives, both of whom are facing a similar situation. For the elder, it literally resulted in the deaths of people he loved and was a traumatic fear that he lived with (like most of us that age). For the younger, it’s something he needs to take a pill for. I don’t know why you think…

Yeah but even now it seems different to me than other chronic conditions. I mean, if I stop taking medication for arthritis or Crohns Disease, while there are horrible things that could happen, I’m not going to be dead in a few years. (BTW I don’t have any of those things.)

Where did he say he was lecturing people? Like most of us who witnessed people dropping dead of AIDS, he’s trying to work out how one generation’s trauma can be another’s manageable condition. This is normal human behavior, and you shouldn’t be lecturing people who lived through the plague years about their confusion.

Well, the difference was that the post-polio vaccine generation couldn’t get polio. These kids can get HIV. The medication prevents them from getting sick, but that means your ability to stay alive is literally dependent on taking medication everyday. That would terrify me, especially given today’s health care crisis…

We also had very good sex ed in the early 90s, and that was in Texas. I wonder sometimes if the HIV crisis opened the door to good sex ed which was then immediately closed after the bodies stopped piling up. Or did the Republicans just get crazier? In any case, I find it ironic that my sex ed in Texas nearly 30 years…

I know exactly what you mean. In my late 20s, I had to take an HIV test too (I don’t remember why, it was part of a random screening for something) and even though I’d been married and monogamous for years, I was scared.