How in the world can that baby do that and I can’t? Did they train her to do it? My experience with babies that age (she’s like a year right?) is that they aren’t even aware that they are a person with limbs. You spend all your time stopping them from killing themselves. How did they get her to do this? Did she come…

South Asia is a big place. In India, it is absolutely illegal to force someone into marriage. The problem is that in very traditional or poor places, the law might not be enforced. But generally, it’s a cultural thing. Family pressure in India is a very powerful force, and Indian kids are less likely to refuse their…

Well if you are in the sort of family that is making decisions based on those things in the first place, and if you are the sort of person who would go along with your parents making decisions like that, then there are going to be probs.

Really? Maybe it’s an age thing, but the MAJORITY of my friends and family had arranged marriages (on the Indian side of course). I see no correlation between the success/happiness of those marriages and whether or not they are arranged or love matches. A few divorces on either side. The arranged divorces tend to be…

We did the same thing. Elope, just signed the papers, didn’t tell anyone. Six months later, went to India and announced it. Such little bullshit and drama this way- really the only way to be totally in control of your life when there are so many people just waiting to be busy bodies. Though my husband was already in…

I think it’s the drama. If you think about the average Westerner, all the drama they get to experience in their teens and twenties with either their own dating or their friends’ dating. They never got to do that (in traditional India) and so the family drama around cousins marriages takes care of that. Especially if…

At least you had kids.

Yup.

Seriously, they are ALL bad. It’s the complete lack of irony. In general, this is an issue in India.

This is funny, and accurate as regards to crazy matrimonial ads. Nonetheless, the problem is the general misogyny in India, NOT arranged marriage. For people with educated families who are progressive, it’s a fine way to go. Nearly everyone in my family has been married via arranged marriage, even those who live in…

No I think the point was that a cat might eat you when you die, but a dog might kill you.

I never really understood this often-repeated criticism of cats. Like, who cares if starving cats eat dead people? Starving people eat dead people too. Why would this deter you from having a cat as a pet? I mean, when I pick out a pet, I don’t think to myself “I’m looking for a pet that will respect my dead body even…

Look, I don’t think they sit down as honest fellows off camera and have a meta-discussion about their media personas. But they are both masters- both playing a certain professional role. They’d both been doing it for decades and had worked together several times, and their interactions together were always awkwardly…

This, exactly.

Exactly. I’m really surprised how many people here think that Simmons was genuinely insulted or bullied by Letterman, and yet kept coming back for more and more. The man didn’t create a multi-million dollar multi-decade career out of his persona by being naive or foolish. He knew exactly what Letterman was doing.…

Simmons was brilliant at selling his persona and his product that way. Letterman was also very good at his job. You are correct about Simmons’ act, but I think you are selling him a bit short to assume that he was not likewise benefiting from the way Letterman interacted with him. They both played a role to both of…

I think they were both in on that. Simmons knew how to get laughs. He had been a media celebrity for decades by then, and made a lot of money doing it. I’m sure it was a mutually beneficial appearance.

And let me tell you what is really infuriating about counting the time here. The only reason this guy stopped was because two other men on bicycles happened to pass and see him, and from afar they could tell something was wrong and they intervened. Rapist fled and they chased after him, which is the only reason he was…

Not claiming that the 1 in 4 on campus stat is accurate at all, but it is worth noting that your stats are ANNUAL. If you look at the percentage of women raped each year, it is a lot lower than if you look at the percentage of women who have been raped.

Alright, there is a lot in that which makes me angry, but setting everything else aside... At the end of that, did I just read that they are asking men to self-report rape and then using the information gathered from those men as the basis of their stats? Because I guarantee there are men who rape women who don’t…