Yikes. And that "pull here" on the shoe- what's that about?

I don’t know. What is that? I must find out! But how?

Wow!

BTW, it’s not his/her problem in a relationship. It's a shared problem and both people are at fault.

If you don’t like sex and are sure that’s something you accept about yourself, then it makes no sense to have maintenance sex with someone. Don’t do it. Just take it off the table in the beginning and find someone who wants a relationship with you but sex with others- up front. Those people do exist. But you have to…

Yup, it's the lack of helpful response that did him in. He obviously didn't intend to kill, but that's why it's manslaughter. He is expected to have a certain amount of experience with guns, including not shooting first which is what he did. But I might be sympathetic if he hadn't shown complete disregard for the…

Play this game to learn to do something better but don’t think about it! Ha!

But what if the other person in your LTR is suffering? You’d have to look exclusively for people who want a sexless LTR. Which exists of course. But for most people, that would be a deal-breaker. Nothing wrong with saying what you want and then going for it. More power to you. The problem is when one person makes a…

Plus I like sitting around talking about The Crazies as much as the next person, so they are probably achieving exactly what they want, ha ha.

But aren’t you asexual? Sorry if I just made that assumption. How could you see yourself in this situation? If you avoid sex like the plague, then waiting until marriage to have sex isn’t really a good plan unless you want to keep avoiding it within the marriage.

For sure, if they are up front about it. It’s on the other person then. But I still think it’s selfish if you don’t allow the other person to get sexual release elsewhere. If you aren’t asexual, that means you have sexual desire, and it’s a selfish thing to do to deny that to someone else altogether (no other…

Oh I see you are the plague person. You’ve turned what I said on its head. No one is forcing you to do anything against your wishes. That would be terrible. But if YOU pursue a relationship with someone who has natural sexual desire and expect them to give that up because you don’t like sex, then yes, that would be…

Way to read out of context. If you are pursuing a long term relationship with someone (both of you healthy people who are attracted to each other) and that person wants to have sex with you and you are refusing any physical contact whatsoever other than hugging and very short kisses for YEARS, yes that is a selfish…

Oh yes, of course. Everyone has their differences that way. I had hook up sex several times when I was younger before I realized that I hated having hook up sex and that this did not detract at all from loving sex otherwise. People like/want different things. Likewise, I bet there are some deep-rooted anxieties that…

I already wish that.

Logic. Ha ha you are absolutely correct. There is no way she’s willfully being his beard.

Why? "Avoid like the plague" is pretty harsh language. I suppose some people really are asexual, OK. But my guess is that they don't seek out long relationships with people who desperately want to jump their bones. If so, that's really fucking selfish.

Yes exactly. The sexual frustration would be the least of my worries in a situation like this. His delusions, certainly high up at the top. His bizarre morality (which would associate sex with shame) way up there too. I bet there's some implied misogyny too (woman as a temptation) but I don't know the fellow so maybe…

Just curious though, who are these lots of people and what reasons do they have? I mean, I know a lot of people who avoid certain things (casual sex, unprotected sex, sex while nursing after you've just had a baby because god knows you don't want another fucking creature using your body just then, etc) but I do not…

If she has any brain cells, she’ll RUN. Any man who is that sure that God has personally ordered him to go nowhere near her private parts has some serious issues, including but not confined to: thinking sex is wrong, thinking God talks directly to him, thinking God cares about his sex life, thinking a female body is a…