That, and having to deal with the wives being jealous if they form a relationship with their combat sisters.

Well group dynamics are weird. I imagine the buddy aspect will be similar to other groups that have integrated women. They are treated differently (and even resented or scapegoated) by some of the men. This causes the women to respond to situations different or to be held to different standards and expectations. Then,…

I don’t understand why they wouldn’t be able to develop that same level of camaraderie and buddy motivation with women. What do you see as prohibitive?

Yeah, agree with all this. The worries about cheating and mental weakness are infuriating. Get the fuck over it.

I don't follow how this would set a precedent for anything other than how to handle future situations in which someone is unwillingly implanted with someone else's embryos. I mean, sure if the father had his sperm put in some other woman without his knowledge or will, then yeah, but otherwise, I don't follow your…

Obviously! But it's not fair to race the genetically modified ones against the not modified ones unless the not modified ones are allowed to dope.

I sympathize, as I can’t afford half of the things I wish to sew also. But I do want to point out that people who were that poor at that time did not usually purchase fabric for most of their clothes. Maybe one nice dress that would be handed down throughout the family every year to a younger child. But they weren’t…

ha! Also, do they really teach Mormon boys that masturbation is evil? So sorry! And yes, why oh why haven't you dressed up? I bet you can get more mileage out of that uniform in bed than you got going door to door.

I was taking a physiology class at the time I had this dream. I like to think that explains it or at least excuses it.

It’s possible we are saying the same thing, here. What I’m trying to prevent is exactly what you are talking about. Prospective parents take on the children in foster homes then choose not to adopt or dissolve the adoption process because they can return to their old lives while the child cannot. You are correct- if…

Can’t disagree with that at all, for parents who are not seeking babies, that is.

Hmm, I see the nuance you mean. Yes, of course, individuals in individual circumstances vary. I’m responding to the suggestion that parents, looking to adopt a baby, might as well look to adopt an older kid from the foster system as if it is even remotely the same thing. Also, it’s worth pointing out that in my…

Maybe I’m using the wrong words. What I’m trying to express is that plenty of foster parents go into this naïve. They just think they need to patiently love a child, and YES, often times they make it about them- it feels good to think you can be someone’s savior. Other times, they work/live in a situation in which…

Actually, I did not bring up attachment disorder. Someone else did and I mentioned it in one or two subsequent comments. Also I never once said anything even remotely similar to it being a sure thing. In fact, I repeatedly said SOME- NOT ALL foster kids have special needs, and I discussed in detail that the RISK of…

I never said regular people couldn’t do it. I said that it is not something that ANYONE or MOST PEOPLE can do. Most prospective parents are not skilled enough (nor do they desire) to take on an older child who has a higher chance of having emotional problems. What part of this statement is controversial? I really…

Thanks for that! Interesting!

Nobody needs you to remind people to be careful with their words. She wasn’t talking to you in the first place, and people don't have to go around being sensitive to all the people on the planet who could possibly be offended by what they say. It is a totally NORMAL thing for parents of young children to make jokes…

Oh well that sounds better at least, though I know it comes with its own set of challenges. For one thing, those kids are probably rarely in what the rest of us would consider a "normal" social environment. This is what I meant about having resources though. Raising a special needs child- one who must be in a…

Consider that, though. First off, I could handle a child with severe physical or medical problems MUCH BETTER than I could handle a child with emotional or psychological problems. That is something I know about myself. Other adults know different things about themselves. But in my case (and many people are like me)…

Yes, we were not talking about foster care.