OH MAN. Too bad they didn't BOTH involve Rachel Dolezal. Imagine. The gal takes off her blindfold and Rachel is like "surprise! I'm not a dude!" and the girl gasps at horror at the dildo. Then while she's trying to process it all, Rachel is like "Also I'm not black either."

Look, it’s perfectly legal for consenting adults to do kinky shit. There are loads of people who consent to doing kinky shit with other people. The problem here isn’t that she did something kinky- it’s that the other person did not have her consent.

I don't know if it was strapped-on or not, but yes that is the gist of it.

It’s about consent, obviously. If I give my husband consent, and then another man puts on a mask, says he’s my husband, has sex with me, then he has raped me. The fact that I consented to my husband does not mean I consented to a random masked man.

Yea, pretty sure.

I think it's cool that she's called General as it makes sense that she would get promoted and move up and all that. She was commanding armies in the originals. I think it's silly to have her offended by being called Princess. It should just be something that she also is, not something that has negative connotations.…

Whenever I read those stats on how many people cheat, I often wonder if it comes out of repression or frustration with rigid social roles. I mean, if I wanted to cheat, I don’t think I could do it with any of the men I know and regularly hang out with because all of us are so open and it would cause problems in the…

As I said, pretty damn frequently. I have male friends and I am a female. Aside from all the many scenarios I named in which it just happens because we are part of a larger social group or there are other things going on involving children/work/chores/hobbies/etc, I also just have men with whom I’m friends and enjoy…

Depends on how serious this is and how much of it is about insecurity. I think my husband is hot. I think it’s really hot when other women think he is hot. I’m constantly asking him to tell me if other women are hitting on him and checking him out. It took him a while to realize I just needed him to make up stories.…

Mostly, I just trust my husband to not desire the company of shady dramatic untrustworthy people. And I trust his judgment and his taste.

I don’t know. I think there are some people who are interested in all sorts of drama, and really it’s just better to get those people out of your life altogether.

Seriously? My husband travels a lot with work, so I assume he has dinner/drinks with colleagues several times a month. Including his assistant and his boss, both of whom are women. But moving beyond that, in the example listed above (the lovely sounding married couple that has their own lives), I’m sure those hobbies…

I think the problem that you are having is that you are projecting YOUR experience on everyone else- assuming that this is what marriage is like for everyone. I do not know anyone who does not have close friends / coworkers / neighbors / parent-friends / hobby-friends of the opposite sex. Not a soul. If this works for…

Sure, but I'd say that there is a pretty good way to approach this without being unethical. There is no reason someone that age should be entirely monogamous either. Be smart and safe and honest and practical about what you are doing; just have the balls not to lie about it.

Yes, but that is an issue of respect, and if it is phrased as an issue of jealousy, it is double disrespect.

It's actually the best part of your brain to bring to the screwing.

Whoa, seriously? OMG. No reason? I could think of a couple dozen before noon.

Whoa. Mind blowing the mental exercises people subject themselves to. I just can't even...

Narrow worldview plus drugs is a combination for disaster in many situations.

I definitely have always heard “fit” to include health- mind and body, btw. Mentally fit, for example. Physically fit. Fitness routine. Etc. I never thought of it as synonymous with attractive at all as plenty of conventionally unattractive people can be very fit.