Well if you see yourself as asexual, then that is not a problem at all so long as you are up front about it because you will end up in a relationship with other asexuals. If they are happy, fine- I don’t see why that’s a problem.

For sure. I think depression is that way too. I don't think these things can be treated with one pill.

dreadful.

Yes this all sounds normal to me, and familiar. I think maybe people have really high standards? Or maybe mine are really low? I have no problem being clear about where I’m at sexually. If you are going to have sex with someone for decades, you aren’t going to have really hot passionate sex the whole time. Sometimes…

Oh yes! I’ve had medication that basically made me not want sex at all. I’ve had the opposite too, when it made me horny. And I’ve had those normal fluctuations in cycle- some times of the month when I'm crazy horny and other times when I'd really rather just not bother at all, thank you very much. So I totally get…

That is a clear answer. I see what you mean. The ice cream analogy in response to you also makes sense.

I understand that. I’m terrified of seeming maternal and sexless, too.

Thanks, I agree with that. I’ve had similar periods in my life- hormonal also. I’ve also had periods where I struggled with anxiety around sex that made the sex unpleasant because I couldn’t turn off my mind. I understand that there are very real causes (medical and psychological) to why women may not have sexual…

OK, a couple questions about that. If you have no desire for sex at all, then why is it a problem? The problem is then that your spouse desires sex. So for whatever reason, you and your spouse are not happy with the spouse having sex elsewhere or perhaps that just wouldn’t work out for your marriage. Alrighty. So the…

Serious question here, what does it mean to desire sex with a partner that you find attractive but not be able to get in the mood? I really don’t understand this- and I’m not being dismissive about it. I know it’s a real thing, but I don’t understand what it means. I mean, I understand what it means to not desire sex.…

Playing devil’s advocate here... I’m pretty sure that a problem with libido has nothing to do with the partner. I mean, if someone can get in the mood with some men and not others, then it’s a simple issue of not being attractive to some men. Normal. But if someone can’t get in the mood, even with people they find…

I understand that this exists. But I don't understand how. Is getting in the mood the same thing as getting off? I mean, can someone with that problem not masturbate?

On the contrary. Plenty of people stop desiring sex with their partner when the sex gets routine or stale.

Interesting. I looked at it on Amazon. Can you sum up what you liked best about it?

Hopefully the man knows and respects his wife well enough to be sure that she'll think it's really funny. It's a second, captured. The very next second (after that contraction passed, so maybe a few seconds), she might've looked at the pic on his phone and laughed. Couples have their own unique sense of humor.

Wow. And this was a really great article. Very informative.

The oddest thing about the whole (faux) outrage over Starbucks cups is that you'd think the GOP would be all about the free market. I mean, don't they think businesses have the freedom to do what they have determined will sell best? Starbucks, I'm certain, employs graphics designers, marketing experts, etc. If this is…

Strangely enough, I've never said Merry Christmas during sex, though I have called on God and Jesus a few times. And I'm not even religious.

Obviously because the cost of labor is only one of the MANY costs of running a business. Seriously, who doesn’t know that?

Yes, exactly. When I taught high school in a working class area, my main beef with the “everyone should go to college” bullshit that we were supposed to force down their throats was exactly this issue. Unless you have something specific that you know you want to do with your life and you have the aptitude and…