You can MOST DEFINITELY dry hump and call it sex. It's called "frottage." Our culture pushes the idea that "sex" is limited to p-in-v (or, if you're a gay man, p-in-a) sex. But that's a damaging idea. As Savage points out, vaginal penetration is likely to be way more emotionally and physically taxing for women, and…

You sound like you should absolutely not have maintenance sex. The whole point of it is to help maintain the relationship, and make the two of you closer, even when you're both tired/stressed/cranky/etc. If having maintenance sex is the thing that ruins your relationship, then definitely don't do it, since it's having…

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Having lived exactly that: not like this.

I'm a terrible, terrible kitchen snob, but after 6 moves in as many years, and increasingly tiny kitchens, nothing in my kitchen has only one purpose except for the oven thermometer and the sink plug, and I still drain my scrubbies on the latter. That said, best gadget ever is a mandolin paired with a cut glove. The…

"The military calls it 'keeping your head on a swivel' and it's probably the most important thing you can do to ensure your safety." So.... literally live every moment like I'm an Army Ranger deployed to Afghanistan? Also, those guys get paid.

I've actually always loved the Swedish tradition of bridal crowns—they're less prissy-looking than a tiara, and they're so pretty!

(This is where I confess that in a moment of wedding-induced madness, I tried to find a "tasteful" tiara.)

YEP. I had a straight white dude at work once tell me that if the next Doctor was female he's stop watching Doctor Who, because "people can't just relate to the opposite gender" I called him out on his bullshit and he just walked off without responding. Doesn't talk to me about Doctor who anymore though.

Bronte brother**. He would never accept being a Bronte sister. I mean, why are they even women? They have no reason to be women.

I'm still amazed by pop figures identifying themselves openly as 'feminist'. It's still a dangerous and unpopular word. Good on them!

Once clean, leaving the lid open after a wash helps. No more moisture trapped in the machine. Airflow people, airflow.

I should add the caveat that I have never sailed on a submarine, just on a destroyer and training vessels, and eventually will go out on frigates.

Howabout be ok with how your body looks?

+1 for bodyweight exercises when you're first starting out. You'd be amazed what you can get out of all variations of pushups, situps, pullups, squats, lunges and burpees (ugh, burpees).

This former dancer & martial artist with congenital knock knees and a formerly torn meniscus can tell you it's not quite that simple.

Excellent post. I'm maintaining a 70 lb weight loss, and I just started off by walking 30 minutes instead of taking the subway. That, and cutting out sodas were the only 2 changes I tackled first. Saved me money, too! Then I turned to bettering my whole diet, and adding more exercise. I discovered I really liked…

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