IME, it's also tricky to be a woman with a stronger sex drive than her male lover because the Mechanical Male Lust stereotype makes them feel seriously bad when they say No. Even if they know it's unfair and irrational. Analagous to how many women feel seriously bad about their looks, even if we know better.

Aaaah, not eating and not exercising means no fun at all!

I'm not an expert, but I've done a bunch of Pilates mat workouts that were pretty darn tiring and almost all done lying on my back. Some of them don't need any equipment, or maybe a strap or small cushion. More exhausting than yoga, in my limited experience.

I think it would be `industrial' if done by an architect.

Good try at sanctimonious nitpicking of sanctimonious nitpicking, but I think you missed the dismount.

There's an interesting book The Cute and the Cool that you might like — about how the last hundred years, mostly in consumer culture, have invented an new style of idealized childhood and then gotten angrier and more scared by older children/teenagers as they leave that childhood.

Man, that's Goblin Market. Backwards and upside down and perverted, but the scariness, and the sisterly touch...

I wonder how UMC American attachment parenting looks from other cultures. I lived in a big Chinatown for a while, where babywearing is of course a norm (too crowded for strollers!), and it *looked* like a neater transition from very attached, friendly-village parenting of dependent children, to children who were more…

I have been eating the first, imperfect waffle my whole life because my parents used to make that joke. First-kid misplaced pride.

I don't even have a kid and now I envy you.

I'm just old enough to have known my mother's slightly richer or more conservative friends who were automatically stay-at-home mothers. Some went nuts, way too many got left by their husbands when the bad parts of the 1970s hit, and some — a surprisingly high fraction — had serious volunteering careers, holding…

Kids are different! You'll notice if your kids aren't enjoying daycare! There will be enough occasions for guilt! Oy already yet!

I notice that current slacker moms do about what my mother did in the 1970s, and she was a high-contact earth mother homegrown-kale homemade-quilt La Leche League RN mom. But she sure left us with relatives and baby sitters sometimes, and I'm glad of it; way to find out that there are other ways to be.

You could probably specialize in one of the farm jobs that took you out of the house, then.

All the same points could be made by comparing Mosuo to either traditional or current Han culture, though.

That would be true for half the populace in any agrarian society, where being tied to the family land and compound is a practical given. In patrilineal places, it is/was standard for the men and their wives and children to live with the man's parents, and the daughters-in-law stereotypically did not have a good time…

Jeremy Bentham is the Queen's backup husband?

Duluth Trading has some interesting practical ones — the side-clips are easier to hide than the front-and-back ones, and if you can wear an untucked shirt they have some meant to be worn under the shirt.

If your handwriting is deteriorating at the same time, no-one will be able to tell.

If your usual oatmeal recipe winds up with excess water that you drain off, probably — the traditional proportions I know of don't. Pretty sure that if I reduced the water I started with I'd burn the oatmeal before it was cooked through.

"Noooo! I'm at Coachella!"