He's mixing categories badly, and should also be comparing date rape at knifepoint vs stranger rape by, uh, whatever means he's thinking of for date rape. (The vagueness of that sure points to the vagueness in his thinking.) Is it violence that's worse? Intimate contact with a stranger? Personally, I think the…

That's not radical. A/B testing marriages, *that* would be radical.

(Mine is unit tested.)

This is a wierd definition of `need'. It *needs* to be done but there's a really low upper limit on the money it's worth? In what way is that *need*?

Seems likely. Examples? The strong visuals for the Amish are farther from modest modern norms than I think the Puritans were from their modest neighbors — no buttons, bonnets!. But I know different Amish communities come up with different practical ways of expressing Amish principles.

Aw, that's bad, I'm sorry. I find I (me, YMMV) need to *do something* with the consciousness of having fucked up or it will haunt me every 3AM forever. Some kind of communications training? Can you narrow down where you dropped the ball? (organization, assertiveness, conflict management, what?)

Middle ground — figure out what you should have done better, find someplace to practice the new skills, apologize (dangerous at work: admitting fault), *then* move on?

I did well in a vicious office environment because I didn't really care and could sensibly negotiate (boundaries, pay, etc). In grad school I do care and I am completely vulnerable.

Depends on whether there's written evidence that you were told, too.

If it *needs* to be done, it's worth a living wage, no matter who's doing it. How can we tell if it needs to be done? Enforce a living wage and we'll see which markets collapse. I think we should be paying ag workers a *lot* more and only get away with not doing so based on flagrant racism. So USians won't do the work…

The problem with that scheme, although I agree it's the kindest and in a perfect world maybe most efficient, is that capital captures all the profit (if anyone can be paid less than a living wage, why not everyone!) and then refuses to fund the social programs.

Yes, if you keep the minimum wage at a living wage most people are better off because more of the profits of work go to labor than to capital. There's plenty of research on this in adjacent regions with different labor laws, also in the history of the 20th c.

If a job isn't worth a living wage, it *shouldn't be a…

Also, in a hostile cross-examination one tends to second-guess honest simple answers.

The more people defend Crossfit by saying `but the gyms are all different', the less Crossfit is actually a coherent thing that *can* be defended. (Not a dig at you, a rumination on the difference between reality and branding.)

It isn't automatic, it happens when people in harder jobs at the new minimum switch to easier jobs that used to be paid the old minimum. Then the employers are forced to wise up.

I'd say those particular forms of dress weren't sacred — they were expressing their faith by *not* wearing other clothes which, at the time, represented worldliness and show. The modern equivalent might well be a polo and khakis.

	Queenie was a blonde and her age stood still, 	And she danced twice a day in vaudeville.  	Grey eyes.  	Lips like coals aglow.  	Her face was a tinted mask of  snow.  	What hips-- 	What shoulders-- 	What a back she had!  	Her legs were built to drive men mad.  	And she did.  	She would skid.  	But sooner or later…

The purpose of the locking is to keep people from barging in by mistake, not to keep, I dunno, lightly armed buccaneers from making off with the milk. Any kind of latch-from-the-inside door and an opaque curtain, seems fine. The pumps aren't very loud IMO?

That would be more than many offices offer. Really, if there's a place with screening — or curtains the pumper can velcro shut — and the team knows that this is just one of those things, gotta plan for the R&D worktimes, I can't imagine most mothers minding *boxes*.

Walk-in tent and a chair at the end of an aisle? It's not like the *weight-bearing* demands are high, just some predictable private space.

Apparently it's legal to record conversations in public places?