Thanks so much! This was hella helpful. I'm definitely gonna do some research now.

Thanks for your help. The problem is that my mom feeds her way too much, she leaves her bowl out all day and refills it with dry food whenever it's empty, and she gives her treats constantly. I don't know how to get her to stop doing that, as it's obviously making the cat gain weight.

*I* try to give her one can of wet food a day - half in the morning mixed with dry food, half at night mixed with dry food (about half a handful of dry food each time). My mom, however, feels the need to not only leave her bowl out all day but refill it with dry food whenever it's empty and give her treats. And my mom…

One more question! Any tips for putting a cat on a diet? My cat's growing quite the tummy and I don't want her to have all sorts of health problems. If you need more details, such as what she eats or how much, just let me know.

Jezzies, I have to get up and scrape stupid tree sap or something off of my mom's car but the couch is SO COMFY. I just want to lay her forever (and my kitten agrees!).

I agree. I think, as with most things, it depends on the individuals involved. My guy friend (the 30 year old) does NOT actively seek out younger women to date, he usually dates women his own age, he just happened to hit it off at a party with our 23 year old friend.

I'm glad you found someone who is compatible with you! I realize that my original post came across as a bit judgmental, and I apologize. I actually don't have an issue with age gaps at all (especially in my friends' situation since I know them both as individuals). I was mostly wondering what everyone else's thoughts…

No worries! I'm on a bit of painkillers so forgive me if my original post came across odd :)

Yeah, I think if these two individuals had their ages reversed (she was 30, he was 23) I wouldn't care. Like I said in other comments, since I know them both as people and he's not some random older guy hitting on my friend, it's really not a big deal.

LOL! That's pretty funny, and definitely a good idea! Thankfully my mom is 32 years older than me so I don't think I'll have to worry about that!

Completely understandable. I hope you eventually find what you're looking for! :)

That's interesting, and I've seen it as well. I always tend to date older guys as well. My boyfriend now is the youngest guy I've dated, and he's only a year older than I am.

I don't know if it's going to work out in the long run. The way my group of friends is situated is that there are some of us in serious relationships who are most likely going to get married, and most of the single people are just looking to have fun and date. My guy friend is definitely into her as a person, there's…

Ah, I see. I'm from NYC. Not to say there aren't men like that here, cuz there obviously are, but there aren't as many. I don't know if there are a lot of men who would self-identify as feminists here, but from the men I've met most of them aren't too into the "submissive wife" ideal.

Oh you didn't! I just hope I didn't originally come across as judgmental. I feel like I might have in my post and that makes me sad...

I don't know, why is anyone interesting in anyone else? There's a million reasons why.

You don't need to justify it to me, I have no issues with whatever two consenting adults decide to do with each other. If you're happy, I'm happy! Mostly I was wondering why the people who have an issue with age gaps have an issue at all, since I personally don't.

Recently the thought of being with an older guy crossed my mind. I saw a dude on the train who was in his 40s (I would guess) and he was GORGEOUS and I just...if I was single I would have totally been down for that experience.

Absolutely. I said somewhere else in the thread that if it were two random people, I might give the guy some side-eye, but since they're both my friends and I know them pretty well it doesn't bother me. I know he's not a creeper type and doesn't feel the need to date younger women (like many of the OkCupid guys), he…

I'm happy you found someone who appreciates you! Everyone deserves that (I think).