“Maybe lock up her phone for a little while?”

Why do women stay in abusive relationships?

There’s something weird about the way we talk about these situations, like we have a limited amount of “victim” slots and we need to portion out our sympathy accordingly, lest we run out. Like, I feel for everyone Weinstein hurt, but damn, I feel for Chapman too. Like just as a mother, I can’t imagine how hard it’s…

Full disclosure, I’m a Black woman married to a foreign born Chinese man. We’ve been together for over a decade & I don’t look like Hallie. No, he doesn’t have tons of Black friends and has never tried to “act Black”.

and how the first reports literally blamed the victim by saying it had to be some drug or other shit and then when that didn’t work that it was probably the son who was building bombs in the house. Nope, that’s some white teenage son shit.

I certainly don’t want to be friends with someone who thinks killing someone multiple people knew he was last with on his own submarine is the “perfect murder.”

Sure he’s normal—plain old radicalized white male. If it were insanity we’d be seeing mass killing being perpetrated by all ethnic groups, both male and female. Ain’t happening is it?

I agree wholeheartedly! This was mainly a snippish response to the serious (and, imho, out of character) vitriol that came out in the comments of the Sugar Baby article. I was honestly quite surprised at how ready women were to denigrate the SB/SD situation when everyone responds fairly glowingly to pornography / sex…

I doubt you meant it this way, but this story comes off badly and it’s not really comparable. While this guy may have been overcompensating due to his gender at birth, he was still always a guy.

I live in Portland, Oregon, where the two white mothers who drove their kids of the cliff had been part of the progressive community here. On Facebook, after the tragedy, people (mostly women, some of whom I know personally) were engaging in long postings and comment threads describing how terribly “stressed out”…

“However, most white Americans are raised to accept authoritarianism. So besides the implicit racial bias, there is a deeply ingrained belief that if ‘the law’ does it, it cannot be wrong.”

It’s notable that murder-suicides committed by BOTH parents against their children are very, very rare. The assumption that they made the decision together to drive off the cliff may arise from the fact that we so rarely see highly publicized cases of domestic violence among gay couples, so an abusive dynamic between…

NO. the definitive ranking is:

This is a bullshit study that doesn’t actually measure an ability to cook and your headline is bad.

“Now, cheating and deliberately throwing it into the face of your partner, or gaslighting them about your cheating, can certainly be emotional abuse, I don’t want to discount that.”

Im sorry people are jumping on you; you can feel sorry both for a victim and for the people he victimizes. You can think of the women he hurt because their hurt due to his trauma helps us understand the full scope of how terrible trauma and abuse is, since it doesn’t just hurt the person who experienced but so many…

The idea that being a victim or “victimhood” as something to be ashamed of is so completely ass backwards and is, of course, another way to perpetuate victimization by robbing those who have suffered of the ability to name the wrong done to them. By definition one becomes a victim because someone else chooses to harm…

I’m from Taos, and for me, it just comes down to being aware and having respect. I’ve met plenty of transplants and tourists who care deeply about the town. But I’ve also encountered tourists and transplants who happily consume the symbols and objects of my culture while simultaneously being racist or condescending…

The difference is that racist or homophobic statements indicate an individual would likely run afoul of equal right protections of others they encounter. Expressing racist or homophobic ideals is not an opinion, it’s a declaration that one feels laws and freedom should be selectively withheld from others. They are…

So...like...Breanna was kinda super-specific what Briskman is suing for. If they’d have simply fired her for something like conduct unbecoming her profession/job, she’d basically have no case. But that’s not what they fired her for.