People talk about the bad shit so much that you kind of feel scared to put your head above the parapet and say, "eh, it wasn't so bad." I had a moderate tear with my first that required stitches. When my second and third were born, I only had a graze. No stitches needed. The last two came so quickly it wasn't funny.…

I think the voice we use with ourselves reflects the voice we learned to use as children. I grew up in a household where using anger was the only way to express my true self. Most other emotions weren't taken very seriously. I didn't grow up in an abusive atmosphere, but any means. My family is actually lovely. But…

I just refer to say, " So do you say that to men who also think you're a fuckhole, or are you just a misogynist?"

Reply, "Are you, BITCH?!?" Which is a special burn if you are talking to a man.

Depending on your state's laws, you might be able to get a restraining order just based on his harassing you. (I know wayyyyy too much about this, sadly.) As others have said—keep EVERYTHING. If he calls you, hang up and make him contact you in writing so you have a record. If he's as unstable as he sounds, he WILL…

I graduated from college with a number of high interest credit cards. I started with some of the smaller balances because it made me feel accomplished about making progress. I picked one card to focus on. I paid the minimums on everything else and all my available cash towards that one card. I paid them off one by…

I went to Consumer Credit Counselling. They are non-profit, government-approved, confidential and very professional, and they offer credit counselling either in-person or over-the phone. They can go through all of your debts and they will discuss with you the best options for getting out of debt-paying down debt,…

Ah I was in Love once like that. I was 27, met the absolute boy of my dreams, he was super into me too, fireworks like I've never experienced before. We had so so much in common and got along so well, like we were always meant to be together. We talked of getting engaged, we even talked to our parish priest about…

I'm just going to leave this here:

The things listed in Ironic are mostly not ironic, but the fact that she wrote a song called Ironic about things that are not ironic....isn't *that* in itself ironic? #Meta

Dude. You sound like you have good intentions and are just naive. But you've gotta take a big step back and think. People of different ethnicities aren't there for you to question and explore like museum exhibits. They have lives and and issues that are much more important and complex than you ticking off how many…

The men's group at Whitman College: The Testostertones.

I was really proud of my bar trivia team's most recent name: Genetically Modified Orgasms

um, Yale Law's Habeas Chorus?

Also, shout out to Scales of Justice — Harvard Law.

Eye contact is also a cultural thing. Making eye contact with elders or a social "superior" can be seen as a sign of disrespect. That's part of why it's hard for me to do it (the other part is that I'm quite shy and eye contact makes me pretty anxious). I remember reading that a Native American (don't remember the…

"Pro" tip! (Air-quotes deployed because I use this tip in my job but did not come up with it.)

Totally agree. I was with her and then she said "I don't call myself a feminist." WHYZ. Own it!