Oh I have, several of my friends are nurses. And i also have several type A friends who ‘did research’ on the birth experience and thought they could manage every angle. I think it’s important to make sure the expectant mother is explained her options the whole way through, but they should only be in charge of the…

Little know fact, back in the 1960s and 70s, men actually had tiny turkey brains so any time they showered there was always a risk that they would look up at the showerhead and open their mouths, thereby drowning in the process. Because women were too smart to do this, it was actually imperative they every man had a…

You are straight up talking out of your ass. I come from a family with adoptions in it. You seem to just not know what you’re talking about and are fantasizing.

Wow, people are rude! I already knew that, but still. Sorry you have to deal with people being invasive busybodies. There are things called tact and mind your own business, people!

Or one that’s seen his mom having the shit beat out of her constantly. Or was sexually exploited. Adoption is a lifelong process. My friends who’ve adopted have said as much. A guy at work just had an adoption fall through. He’s gotta go through the process again.

You don’t. But you don’t have parent a child with deep-seated trauma either. It’s hugely different and adoption isn’t right or proper for everyone.

Don’t pay the judgy folks any mind - the internet allows people to say anything they want with no repercussion so people say all kinds of stupid things. You will be amazed at the things that strangers will say to you about your adopted child (assuming he/she doesn’t look like he/she could be your biological child) - I…

My younger brother (adopted, like me) was a crack baby and guess what? We still had to wait over 3 years to get him. Adopting isn’t easy.

I am adopted. I think it is a beautiful way to create a family. I also have two biological children of my own. Everyone’s reproductive choices are their own and are equally valid.

Honestly, I find it hard to believe that not one person who uses this website has adopted a child with problems. At least, I wouldn’t feel comfortable making that declaration when I don’t actually know anyone here.

Everybody on these boards talks a big game when it comes to this issue but NONE of them is actually trying to adopt a crack-baby, one with fetal alcohol syndrome, or an slightly older child displaying mental health issues.

Good luck to you.

Thank you. Our best friends spent years trying to adopt, and when they *finally* got matched, the babies came too early and died. They’re now exploring assisted reproduction options because they just can’t have their hearts broken again, and there’s less uncertainty/risk in that process. I get so fucking steamed when…

Adoptive mom here - best of luck to you. My daughter was born in Guatemala and I have no family history at all so I (along with thousands of other families) took a leap of faith because we wanted to be parents. If you love them unconditionally then it really doesn’t matter - my daughter has learning disabilities,…

Adopting isn’t just like the stork dropping a homeless infant off at your doorstep so you can smother it with love, you know. There’s a lot more to it than that. People who go to great lengths to have bio-kids aren’t just self-centered shitbags that want to create something in their own image. They might be realistic…

Because they don’t want to. The right to choose extends past abortion, people! Don’t worry about other women’s wombs or eggs (in this case).

I’m also have a hard time with this. I adopted an older child who was in the system and I’ve seen the effect this behavior has on children. I totally empathize that the parents do not want to lose their kids and the system itself can can do harm to the kids. It’s often not done out of malice but from a lack of…

Sorry for the delayed response, but this was a good honest answer to a straight question. And glad to hear you support legalizing / decriminalizing. One other thought, not sure if it makes sense but I’d be interested in hearing your reactions. Whenever I join in the sex work debates, I get the sense that…

Fellow women’s college grad. Applauding you so hard right now.