Isn’t she the one who wrote about Lena Dunham’s “inexcusable thighs?” Of all the things one might label “inexcusable” about Dunham, that was a totally unacceptable dig for any woman to make about another.

Huh, you think a man who devoted his entire life to political service and spent eight years in the Oval Office trying to push a boulder up a hill has less insight into how change is created than you, a work-from-home blogger with, I’m guessing, a 4-year-degree and a few years of post-grad life?

Here’s my take, but I really think I’m right :) . Growing up, young women see everything. They see how the whole system is set up. They see how much power their youth and relative attractiveness gives them relative to, say, a 60-year-old woman. If they aren’t weighed down by marriage and motherhood or caring for aging…

Do you think it has anything to do with the fact that the patriarchy pits younger and older women against each other, which results in exactly the dynamic you’re describing? We shouldn’t fall for it, but let’s look at the broader context. 

Not to deny your experience with old-school feminists, but you really can’t live in this culture and have never had it implied that older women are worthless. It’s not an either/or thing. You can have had mostly shitty experiences with older women and still acknowledge that women become invisible and mostly worthless…

Miley Cyrus’s strategy seems to be one of finding gratification through instinctual, spontaneous life choices, then, in media interviews constructing a thoughtful-sounding narrative around the spontaneous action, with lots of spiritual flourishes and mindfulness talk. She’s young and famous and should be as…

What Joe Biden thought and believed 38 years ago is of the most trivial interest if he no longer thinks and believes these things. If you don’t like Joe Biden, fine. Don’t vote for him. He’s not my first pick. But base it on his beliefs and policies of the past ten years. Anyone who has been in politics for more than…

Another “just adopt” post. You think you’re being brave and truthful, but you’re just ignorant.

If you find this interesting, I highly recommend reading The Overstory by Richard Powers and The Hidden Life of Trees by Peter Wohlleben.

If anyone can actually live on income from fostering, they’re likely living in squalor. That is no way to put a roof over your head. 

Seconded.

I may be one of the few qualified people to comment, as I’ve done it all. I’ve had 4 natural pregnancies. One healthy childbirth to my awesome ADHD, gender-fluid kid. Had some PPD after they were born. Had two miscarriages and a devastating stillbirth. I’ve done IVF, unsuccessfully, trying for #2. Tried adopting…

I was going to say Hugh Grant, but it seems like they’re friendly now.

With that combo of diagnoses and domestic violence in the presence of the child, she’s going to lose custody again. 

I thinks she’s on the verge of figuring out who she is and I’d like to watch that happen. It may not happen, but at least she has a fighting chance. 

So when she leaves the celebrity life behind, will she get her fake ass removed? Because lately she has been commenting that she’s tired of people looking at it, which I respect. But when you put a train wreck on your backside and spend 10 years begging everyone to rubberneck it, the only way to get them to stop…

Right. I agree with you on your response. But up above you said “And who gets to do that defining [of intent]? The people on the receiving end of that act. The people who are affected by it.” And that’s not how it works, legally, or even practically in the real world. How many times have you found that your actions or…

Intent is THE legal standard that distinguishes homicide from manslaughter, so intent matters. Do you think the legal code should be rewritten to make every form of killing equivalent? Should the victim’s family decide what the charges should be? As someone who can declare “Me too” on many fronts, I don’t think your…

You’re so pure. 

You completely missed the nuance. She says, “Maybe that’s the right thing to do, cis women, in this moment.” And by that she means maybe the right thing to do is to STOP excluding trans women, to stop circling the wagons. But she’s also acknowledging the very real need that cis women have to support each other in…