You might feel differently if you were nine months pregnant with a baby you desperately wanted and the alternative was to go home to an empty nursery and lactating breasts with no one to feed. Speaking from experience. This is all theoretical for you, but a dead child is a very real tragedy.

Also pro-choice and I totally agree.

I think both you and lawlover are projecting nefarious intentions with very little evidence. As someone who actually experienced a stillbirth, it is a horror, an ongoing source of grief and pain that stays with you forever. The case in quesiton was a high-risk delivery and I would much rather have my doctor err on the…

Thank you. It’s very easy to armchair quarterback these decisions, but people are really naive about the fact that you can end up with a dead baby if you make the wrong call, and that is far worse—-both for the mom and obviously the baby—-than having an unwanted c-section. I say that as someone who is still grieving a…

Because another life was at stake, too.

When you have a c-section, all the muscles and tissues that must work together to get the baby out are severed and have to “reseal.” There is the risk that your uterus could tear under the pressure of labor. After 2 c-sections, the risk goes up.

I would love to hear your perspective on adoption if you’d like to share...what has been challenges and joys, what advice you’d have...

Our social worker is taking 6 months to write the homestudy report. We are stuck waiting for her. *sigh* We have this wonderful home to offer, kids need homes, and the report is sitting on her desk. #adoptionrealities. But we’ll wait.

Thank you! We are trying to adopt from foster care, so if we are matched, we know we will have to be prepared to help with healing and support. But this isn’t for everyone and the only people who talk about “just adopt” know nothing about the reality.

Thanks. We actually abandoned the infant adoption route because we couldn’t get on board with the way private adoption works in this country today, both in terms of our experience as potential adoptive parents, and in terms of the expectant moms themselves, so we are completing our homestudy to adopt an older child…

Thank you!

How many adoptions have you completed?

The point is that adoption forces you to make a life-changing decision in no time with little information, some of it concerning. And if you have other children, as I do and as the subjects of the article do, it is very difficult to know which known risks you want to take, which is why it’s so tempting to do high-tech…

As someone trying to adopt, it’s way fucking harder to do that than to do IVF or use a surrogate. And then you have to make tough choices about what risks you’re going to take on...heroin-exposed baby? Grandma has schizophrenia? Mom screened positive for amphetamines but says she just took Sudafed?

I was tempted to roll my eyes at this, but then I read this article. I still think it’s going to present huge inefficiencies if medicine decides to take a “let’s wait and see how this turns out” approach to sex and gender, but I think I appreciate the case this parent is trying to make.

Ok, but the shitshow at Gamestop is equal opportunity. Men and women treated like shit because that’s the business model of the company. With some exceptions, the sex trade maintains a specific patriarchal status quo. But your job works for you, so fine.

False equivalency.

Ah, I get it.

What’s the point of that awful quote?

I actually agree with you.