“But Alexander does not talk to Stanich’s wife”

A different kind of example of this is Broadchurch, where the wife isn’t the victim but is nonetheless destroyed by her marriage to a murderer.

Facebook is a public space and it should be used as such.

All good points. I’m surprised it has to be said that posting something on Facebook is like putting something on a public message board. I only share things that I want to be public. Same with posting on a friend’s wall or commenting on their post, if I wouldn’t be comfortable saying it in front of every person I know…

Hinduism is also authentic when it’s not in India. Staying close to the origin, if J.K was actually inspired by Indonesian mythology, would have meant casting an Indonesian actress.

A South Asian man who was perpetuating the myth of Indian superiority and authority over Hinduism.

Uh, Indonesian Hinduism is not less authentic than Indian Hinduism... Sanskrit is a language not a people. If J.K.R. was inspired by Indonesian mythology, she doesn’t have to go back to the Indian myth to legitimate her interpretation. Indian people are not the only authoritative representation of Hinduism. Amish…

Ah, the good old “I would react to cheating in this precise way” comment, in which someone claims to be supportive of the scorned woman, but in reality is just boasting about how they would be tougher, stronger, or more confident than other women, who are shamed for being too meek or subservient.

I don’t think the issue is forgiveness. The problem is that the circle of men who are in positions of power and the circle of men who are sexually, physically or emotionally abusive towards other people overlap considerably, in large part because to be a man in a position of power you probably have developed certain…

“But, if there is a “higher power”, taking a very good person so early in life yet leaving so many assholes makes no sense.”

Why are you generalizing something that is incredibly personal and different for every person? I’m not saying that you should use children as the reason to stay together, I’m saying that depending on one’s circumstances, sometimes making it work is the best choice for both partners. If you choose to make it work, you…

No one is saying it occurs in a vacuum but the cheater is 100% responsible for the infidelity. If they had not cheated, it wouldn’t have happened. They might not be 100% responsible for the circumstances they use to justify their cheating, but most people are incapable of accepting full responsibility for anything…

When you say that “infidelity is a symptom of a bad marriage, not the cause” - you’re shifting the blame away from the cheating spouse and on to the marriage - which both parties are equally responsible for. Hence, you’re saying that the wronged partner bears equal responsibility as the cheater, because the reason…

When you have children together, are financially dependent on one another, are dealing with an illness, or have other circumstances that make breaking up incredibly difficult, sometimes the best option for all involved is to try to make it work.

Those who say that Spike “bootstrapped” himself into being good are ignoring the very problematic reasons for why he helps Buffy in the first place - first for money and then after because he’s obsessed with her. Why do people forget that he abducted her in season 5 and chained her up (along with Harmony and Dru) and…

“Being a man” has nothing to do with the ability to get it up. I believe that Spike says that he “can’t be a demon, can’t be a man” because of his chip.

Didn’t they leave Spike’s motivation suspect on purpose? Was he looking for a soul or looking to get his chip removed so he could “be a man” again?

I think people can feel guilty for things that they have no direct control over. People who have mental illness and go into manic states don’t come out of them feeling no remorse over how they behaved when they had no ability to control themselves. Isn’t Angel’s condition similar to someone with mental illness?

Why would you have said Angel was the worst and what do you think now?

Four years ago I was in the same situation. I discovered he had been cheating 2 months after our second child was born with health problems.