My oldest went off to college 3 years ago and I have to admit it was sad to have her gone. I asked her to call once a week and we scheduled it. Her father (divorced) preferred and was happy with long emails. It was easy to get a mid-week return phone call/text before she got involved and made friends. I didn’t try too…

Thank you! When I was vegetarian (in my 20s, ouch), anytime anybody heard this they would start saying how little meat they ate and making excuses. I didn’t freaking care. I personally didn’t want to eat meat, but I didn’t care what anyone else did. I never tried to evangelize one bit.

It’s almost like predestination/”chosen ones” beliefs: we’re white and successful therefore God chose us and protects us and this would never happen to us. If this happens to you, then you must have done something to deserve it. “ Seriously, I think people believe this. This belief is causing a lot of harm.

Women play a role here. They are mothers. Mothers, what are you telling your sons??

Maybe we should stop looking for logic in it and call them out. It’s “code”. When they get government assistance, or when businesses do, it’s right and good. When black people or Hispanics get it: it’s a handout, “free stuff”, it’s pretty much of the devil, to hear them talk about it.

My grandfather was a bad running around, cussing - charming - drunk. My grandmother was an upstanding schoolteacher. Her parents said, “You made your bed, now lie in it.” My father always told me that’s why she didn’t divorce him and when he died I found the actual letter where my grandfather told her that.

This comes at an interesting time for me. Just yesterday I spoke with an adult member of a fraternity who, along with other members, kicked out a huge percentage of the boys in the current frat because of an incident that sent someone to the hospital. The incident was hushed up, which makes you wonder how many…