Well, if you're an asshole, so am I, so...I'd say we have good company. I'm also glad that I'm not just oversensitive (which is what she'd tell me I'm being...or rather, would tell other people I was being behind my back); dealing with her sometimes makes me feel a little crazy.

Ugh, no good :( Maybe the silver lining is opening up slots for new, better friends? Someone else on this thread suggested planning your own smaller, social activities; if some of those friends are worth retaining, maybe planning events yourself and inviting a couple of them along would be worthwhile?

Oh, and she's recently taken to living at my house (literally: sleeping, showering, etc.), because her apartment has been really hot and our house is only pretty hot (warmish outside + crappy ventilation and no AC = wooo!). The more I write all this out the more I'm realizing how ridiculous of a situation this is. But…

There's clearly some big wanting-approval issues going on (also I reread my comment and realized I should clarify that she does so on holidays, birthdays, etc., so a little less weirdly than randomly!), but of course I'm like...6, so the more someone desperately seeks my approval the more I don't like them. I think…

I should also note that our political opinions and opinions about human nature are nearly always at odds, and that after meeting my boyfriend's family a few times, she regularly sends them cards and brings them presents, which even my boyfriend, who generally likes her, thinks is weird. The whole thing is leading…

Haha, no, not crazy racist or vocal anti-vaxxer! Mostly massively insecure in a way that she takes out on other people, if that makes sense. Also very very troll-y, e.g., talks about everyone negatively behind their backs. She can be very funny, which is why a lot of people are fine having her around, but the cons…

The arranging activities for smaller groups idea is excellent. I'm bad at being proactive about that stuff and definitely could arrange events and get togethers that would be more enjoyable than those I get swept into!

Yeah, that's what I've been doing. It's a bigger problem because Ann really wants my approval/friendship, and therefore seeks me out, wants me to hang out with her one-on-one or in small groups, calls me, invites me places, etc. I'm completely fine with her in large groups, but I'm very uncomfortable hanging out with…

What if you have an Ann problem but not all of your other friends despise your Ann? Like, it's about 75/25 (with the 75% liking and/or willing to put up with her), but you're part of the 25% and starting to not feel able to put up with her shit anymore (but really like and want to spend time with people who are in the…

I came to the comments section hoping someone had explained this. Thank you! I'm with RBG completely on this, and that's because I want *more* reproductive rights that are actually based on theories of *equality*. Also I just wrote a 3000-word final on the evils of basing women's rights on substantive due process,…

I have a question about how to stop being friends with someone who still wants to be friends with you (and is regularly around all your other friends, including your SO...). I'm happy to see this person once in a while and be polite/friendly, but I don't like her much and decidedly do not want to hang out individually…

Dear MoGlo,

You all rock. Thanks for the tips — I'm gonna go find my test subject!

So maybe I'm just lazy, but will someone explain to me how to make cowgirl work and not have horribly exhausted thighs after a minute or two? I end up just thinking about how tired I am, which is not at all what I'd like to be thinking about mid-sexy times. Either I'm doing something wrong or I need to work out more…

I walked past a group of boys playing the other day, and one of them (maybe 5 or 6 years old) came right up to me and said "Excuse me, miss, but you're very pretty." Best catcall of my life, hands down.

I have this thing I call the "napkin theory": when I am dressed up, have make up on, etc., and get food to-go, I always get napkins in the bag. When I haven't looked in the mirror, am in sweats, etc., and get food to-go, I very rarely get napkins in the bag. Usually you can judge how "good" I look based on exactly how…

My expectations may be too high, but I'm pretty sure this would change my life. Might have to make a trip to Pennsylvania.

@jurisenpai: Awesome, thanks!

Anybody very active have experience with menstrual cups? I'm a dancer, and it took me years to find tampons that wouldn't leak while I was dancing, so the thought of leaving those is scary!

@Underling: If you put those people in a friend list (just go to Friends and click Create a List), you can go "invisible" for that list. If you click that little green thing on the side of the chat box next to your list name, it will turn gray - voila! Invisible. You won't be able to see when they're online, but they…