I feel like people who spew forward platitudes like ‘oh, but they’re your family, and family is so important’, ‘you can’t cut family out’, or ‘but he’s your dad!!!’ have either:

It does sound complicated, and I’m sorry about your pain. I hope you are able to get what you need to heal.

Oh this language breaks my heart. 21 year old girls can be smart and amazing and they have agency. But he was 55/56. She can be as impressive as all get out, but there is still a 35 year age gap. What man watches a girl grow up for 11 years (even just casually) and wants to have sex with her? A creepy fucking one.…