You're either grey or black by default - I think the vast majority of commenters are by default grey on all articles. You get put into the black on one particular article by being recommended by someone who is automatically put into the black comments - it doesn't matter how many recommends you get, just what their…

Ugh that's the worst - my mom dropped a bunch of weight when my dad left her, and people were shooting her compliments left and right, but really she was just devastated and couldn't be bothered to feed herself. It made her feel awful.

I lost about 70-75 pounds in the 2-3 years following undergrad - I'd been heavy for years (starting early puberty), and suddenly, as I moved deeper into my 20s, my metabolism shifted and it fell off remarkably fast, without really trying. I had medical tests done and everything, and everything was fine. (While there…

Been there. I ate one meal a day at most, and lost about 20 lbs (I'm 5 ft tall, so that proportionately is like losing 40 or so lbs if you were taller or had a larger build) very quickly. My mother was thrilled with how skinny I was!

Same went for my sister when she was doing a bunch of coke in high school...my mother…

When I first got out of school and moved to NYC, I was on the super-effective Poverty Diet as well. I could eat anything I wanted, but I only had $3 a day to spend. I had a pint of milk for lunch everyday because at the time it was only $.65.

I often enjoyed making those people feel awkward by saying, "Oh, I've just been too depressed, anxious, and poor to eat. Thanks!

Ha! I had the same experience when I first went freelance. I was so broke that I ate hardly any food at home and then scrounged leftovers at my night job at a restaurant. I was so skinny, but when my career started to pick up, I gained it back.

Zimmerman was not ambushed, even according to him. You are taking his final testimony as the literal truth when it contradicted his prior testimony as well as the facts.

She wasn't able to escape through the route that she took and had to go back inside to get her keys, which were past him. Once inside, he threatened her and walked towards her, at which time she fired the warning shot, according to HIS deposition. He had physically assaulted her a few minutes before and was an…

*coughs* Hater *coughs*

I'm not saying that being a black woman makes you completely undateable. It's just that, in my experience, one's inbox overfloweth not.

I'd get out. If he's volunteering that he's seeing someone else, and claiming that he's missing an "overwhelming infatuation" for you, this is not going anywhere good. If you're wrong—and he starts begging you to take him back—well, then, great. But while I'm sure he's got lots of good qualities, it just doesn't…

HELP!

Not every single thing that touches upon race IS racist! You're right!

I can only speak from my experience as a non-white American, but my problem is less about the color of the person asking and the fact that very rarely do white people in America receive this same line of questioning. It's America—a salad bowl of mixed nationalities and ethnicities and backgrounds, yet people still see…

"I think I need to give it a few months ..." No you don't. Now is the right time to have the conversation about where and how the relationship is going. I can see you backtracking, explaining away, and defending the situation as you discuss this, but deep down you know it is DTMFA time.

Ah shit just read that you're only 23. Look, I've been in similar places to you. I don't want to read too much into your writing but you said "I'm so dumb". Makes me think maybe you feel dumb a lot? Or just in general not good enough? Like you're trying really hard and getting nothing from it? Girl you are TWENTY…

You know what? Fuck your boyfriend. In all honesty. Fuck him.

You sound like you have invested an awful lot. I understand that dissertations are hard work, but it really sounds like you feel like you're being taken for granted.

Ouch - I don't think you're being unreasonable. (And if you want the gory details about why I feel that way, let me know.) And reading everything else, I think your intuition is screaming at you, big time.