It’s neither her job nor her responsibility to fix this. That part was bad advice.

I get so fucking angry reading these stories. Time after time after time, “I feared for my life”. Meanwhile about 10 blocks away from my work, a white man drove down the sidewalk and killed 10 people, got out of the van, held up a cell phone claiming it was a gun and the police officer walked right up to him and…

Do you find yourself just cooking, cleaning the house and washing clothes with little to no attention in return. Guess what? You’ve become his mom. Go see a lawyer, it’s time to say adios. Go out, find a man and leave the boys with their toys.

Idk, I have a friend in a similar situation, and her husband treats their kid like an inconvenience who gets in the way of his gaming. He apparently streams whenever he has free time and leaves her to do all the child raising, cleaning etc. OP might end up with two kids instead of just one :(

I no longer ask him to spend time with me or ask if he wants to do things. I tell him what I am doing and leave the door open.

Emotional labor is exclusively for women, doncha know.

“But—and I can’t stress this enough—it’s important you actually make plans with him ahead of time for those non-gaming nights. It’s never a good idea to wait for him to sit down to play and then ask him if he wants to do something with you.”

I have some experience with this, so please learn from my mistakes. Your guy is a gamer. Your relationship was the real life game. Marriage was the final boss. He won. He’s done. Some people are asking how you didn’t know this, but I’m betting he put quite a bit of effort into winning you and seeming like a good guy.…

And it’s downward spiral because when he sits on his ass playing video games, he’s probably not exercising (or even being physically active at all), and therefore decreasing his libido even more.

Girl needs to get some toys, find another girl, and leave him out until he stops - literally - playing games.
I wonder how…

I was a gamer widow and I did all of the things suggested. It made me frustrated and sad. We broke up because my emotional needs, like sex and occasionally leaving the house, were just too much for him. :/

have sex with her dude

Seriously, does he have a job? Is he getting exercise? Spending every night from 8-who knows gaming seems hard to do if you’re employed.

The fact that this is his problem to fix but she is being told to do all the work blows my fucking mind.

I think the “set limits” advice makes more sense for a child rather than a significant other. This guy is making no effort and isn’t interested in changing. He’s supposed to be a partner in the marriage, but he’s just a selfish asshole.

it’s important you actually make plans with him ahead of time for those non-gaming nights ... Plan some fun dates that get him off his ass and out of the house. Help him find the excitement in the real world again.

Um, she already was doing everything you suggested? Planning activities, initiating sex/creating romance (whatever that means) and his response is defensiveness, disinterest, and insults. This guy is a walking red flag.

Did she not know she was marrying a gamer manchild before, or...? I wonder how old these people are that all night every night gaming binges are even a possibility for this dude.

Yep that’s totally the issue here: poor girl is with a guy with no libido and it’s “her fault”. Not sure if proper communication can fix this. Her guy doesn’t give a *#&@.

The dick is of course haunted and played by Chris Rock.

Charlotte is her grandma all over again.