Nah, he actually has to be in the building to do stuff. I could easily do most of my job remotely part of the time. I wouldn’t want to stay home all of the time, but it’d be nice to have some flex time. Since my husband works weekends, I’m parenting full time all weekend long and I don’t get much household stuff done.…
OtherKate8
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Abuse, sexual or otherwise, is about unaccountable power.
Nah. It may change, but only for men. In one of my other replies on this article I noted studies of leave in academia and how, when leave time (in the form of a stopped tenure clock) was granted, it increased the men’s chances of getting tenure by about 20%, while women’s chances fell by a similar number.
This. I’m all for men having these priorities and for men wanting work/life balance. But let’s also acknowledge two things:
I can’t walk halfway down the block without running into 3 guys who will complain to no end about their alimony or child support bills, but they can’t see past their noses to realize that if we had child care, if women didn’t make 70 cents on the dollar, if the entire structure of society didn’t minimize women’s…
I’m not sure I’d call higher ed progressive or family friendly, at least for women. None of the women I work with who are married or have children would probably say so. Academia is notoriously shitty about maternity leave—not that they don’t let you take it, but that women get seriously punished in their tenure…
My husband is constantly asked to come in on his day off, when our son has a standing appointment that my husband takes him to. His boss is like, “can’t your wife do it”. No, I cannot, because I am at work and it is husband’s fucking day off.
I’m never having kids so I can’t say I empathize exactly, but I really, really do feel you. And I want my sisters to get all the leave they need to take care of their babies and bodies. I got salty with coworkers who complained about pregnant women not coming in to work or people getting more vacation than others. I…
Society wants women to have children and stay at home in perpetual domestic servitude. Working disrupts that paradigm.
Yep. I live in California, in a supposedly very liberal and ‘enlightened’ area, and it’s still bad. California has additional parental leave rights in addition to the federal 12 weeks job protection (12 weeks of paid leave in CA!). My husband works in the tech industry. When our first was born my husband attempted to…
These bros piss me off. Because I know their type and they take every opportunity to bring up their kids. Because, unlike their female coworkers, they get to use having kids as an “head of household” credential to ride that glass elevator straight up. Whereas for women, it works the other way around.
Maybe? Until it is understood and expected that both parents want to act as parents in raising their kids, nothing will be done. Women asking for it was never enough because working women have always been treated as the exception, not the rule. Even when most households have two working parents.
My work has gone to paid parental leave (2 mo), and short term disability for 2 months, and the two months paid includes all birth and adoptive parents. You’re starting to see men take advantage of it, and that’s great, but the consequences for them are so minimal. If anything they are lauded for taking time with…
I work in higher ed, which is typically fairly progressive and family friendly (at least relative to many other sectors). I’m also a single father, for all intents and purposes. I’ve managed to work my way up the ranks to basically the highest point I can get to in my field, which means many of the people I work…
I feel bad for the Dad but... my need to leave at 5pm to get home and feed my under 1 child is questioned, and counts against me at my job.
It’s like society wants you to have children and then it punishes you for having children and at the same time hates you if you don’t want to have children.
My wife and I just had a kid, and I had been wondering these past few months how 3 of my (male) colleagues in the same role had such an easier time with parenting. I thought maybe they were more used to it when I remembered that their wives don’t work outside of the home. My wife’s office has been more than…
I feel like that is part of the rot at the root of our country, to be honest. (Racism is the largest part of that rot, but that’s a conversation for another time.)
I am baffled why the people of West Virginia Coal Country feel such loyalty to the coal companies. In the past century the coal companies have poisoned their landscape, destroyed their natural beauty, set fire to the earth itself, terminally affected the health of both their adults and children. They condemned their…