You are obviously different than us, but my sister and I (slowly, cautiously) have been building a relationship. We needed some time and distance but we are both healing. It is possible to move past.

Ugh oh god my sister did this once and it wrecked me. So sorry and I hope you are able to find other things to make you happy.

Not to mention that (http://www.motherjones.com/mojo/2015/12/t…) the cost of an abortion was most likely well beyond the means of a poor person, which she definitely is. So even IF she caught it in 16 weeks and even IF there was a clinic and even IF she could get off the waitlist in time, she probably could not pay…

He did it to shut me up. I mean, if I’d died I guess I would have shut up, so I suppose it was a mildly effective tactic except I fought the fucker off. So yeah, thank you DV advocates!

Didn’t Key & Peele already do this, though?

Sorry but I just finished reading for my grad school exams and still have a ton of other things to grade and read, so I’ll keep getting what I can from articles about it, but thank you for the recommend!

I agree that there is something fishy about the mom’s side of things, but also it’s never ok to punish children for the sins of the parents.

I enjoyed the soundtrack but their take on the Federalist Papers was, “Gee, they sure wrote a lot of those!” Which made me laugh, honestly.

So sorry.

ARGH SO FRUSTRATING like, I’d start returning things to sender but I mean, how can they enforce this rule of making the whole family do this? What unholy blackmail material do they have on their extended family members?

Anecdotally, it’s usually pretty clear who makes a mistake and who does it passive-aggressively to make a point, though. Like, my husband’s coworker or a wedding invite from someone he knows calling me Mrs. Soandso, fine. My aunt? Yeah, you’ve known me since I was born as my name and it didn’t change so you’re making…

It is disrespectful to you as a person. Full stop.

We were still working on some issues re: feminism when we were in the marriage-planning stages but at the time, I shifted the conversation to make it about him changing his name (which he strangely didn’t want to do, even though my name is much easier to pronounce and spell! Which is weird because women always give…

Argh yes and thank you for vocalizing why I want to poke my eyeballs out when someone frames it like this. I kept my name. I have an ok relationship with my dad that used to be terrible but we’re working on it. When I got married, I told everyone I was lazy so not to have to argue about it. It WAS easier to keep it,…

I’m so sorry you had to go through that. Sorry for everyone who has had to go through something like that. And agreed: fuck those people.

Ok, all these Today Show apologists need to sit down. I mean, just make three pies and call it a day! I’m not going to talk about cake because really, cake is not worth our time.

OR...when you sleep you’re living someone else’s life!

Oh hey, <3 back. This whole situation sucks.

It is oddly comforting to hear other people’s stories of their screwed up relationships with their parents. That said, I’m sorry your mom is being so annoying to you!

Oh dear lord, no, I’m sorry. I really was trying to contribute to the discussion and not to give you unneeded advice. I really didn’t expect anyone to see it since I’m always in the greys! Anyway, I am very, very sorry. And as someone who was raped on many occasions by people I was supposed to be in a relationship…