I’m so sorry about your dad.

Antidepressants can be a game changer, and doctors are used to patients coming in and saying, “I can’t manage this on my own anymore, even with therapy”. Your doc will likely start you off on a low dose of something, and if that doesn’t work, they may up the dose, or try something else.

Hey; kinja is so truly fucked up that I cannot reply to or even read your comment to me on the air source heat pump. I’ve spent 20 minutes scrolling through other comments of yours to find one that even shows up in any post that I can reply so if you find that people are not replying to you, it’s most likely because…

They seem to be very well suited for hot and temperate climates, but the problem has been engineering them for much colder climates, like most of Canada, northern Europe and Asia. It’s nice to hear that they are catching on in the temperate regions.

I have a mini-split ductless system, and will hopefully be removing my oil fired boiler and rads soon, and I have had wall mounted “heads” installed a few inched under ceiling level. Maybe this Dandelion system requires ducts, but many don’t.

The thing is though, the unit doesn’t use electricity to heat your house; it uses electricity to run the unit.

Look into air source heat pumps; I’m in a city, with a tiny treed back yard with no room for geothermal. I’ve just had a Trane air source heat pump installed which is also much cheaper to install than geothermal, and much smaller; mine is the about 3 1/2 feet high and long and 2 ft wide.More expensive than replacing a…

I meant keeping a private journal for yourself. :D Where wordsmithing doesn’t really matter, unless you want to polish your skills.

If writing helps, have you tried journaling? A lot of people say they find it helpful

I’m so sorry Ruby. A lot of grieving involves guilt, as in; “Why wasn’t I there when ...?”

Fuck parents!!!!!!!!!!!

Very cute! And lovely in the hot weather.

They are great; so convenient. They aren’t much quieter than window-shakers, but the ease of installation is a big plus.

I lived in one apartment (top floor, flat, black tar roof over top) that got so hot that one of my cats collapsed from the heat. I had to put her in the sink in tepid water to get her cooled off. She was pissed about that too. It takes a lot of heat for a cat to feel the effects. I got a window a/c unit after that.

I would say keep trying with the cats until it isn’t possible anymore. A trap might work where a carrier won’t, because they don’t really see it as an enclosure, and you don’t have to be at the trap to close the door. Speaking from experience, it is possible to trap a feral or a stray in a cat carrier, but it’s hard,…

As soon as I get home from work and have walked the dog, and fed everyone, I strip down, do a tepid sponge bath, dry off in front of a fan, put on some cornstarch (an organic “talc), and put on clean, dry, loose cotton clothes from the skin out, and then settle in front of a fan. The sponge bath removes the sticky…

You could a “swamp cooler”; a bowl of ice in front of a fan, so that the fan blows the cool air at you.

Good news, but qualified, then. I had something similar; some little granularities that I had to have checked every six months for two years. And nothing came of it, but it’s still a bit nerve-wracking.

The thing about depression is that it’s such a downward spiral; you feel exhausted so you don’t go to your therapy session which makes you more depressed, which makes you more exhausted. And you’re too tired to do anything you enjoy, and the depressions saps any enjoyment anyway. And it’s hard to remember any time…

I have a nice big tree at the front (west side) of the house, and most of the yards in my neighbourhood are heavily treed, so I rarely need a/c.