Thanks ns, and everyone, for the replies. I’ve decided to wait a year, until next National Coming Out Day (cheesy I know) to come out. I’ll need that time anyways to prepare: hormones taking effect, facial/body hair removal, and the acquisition of a new wardrobe. Here’s hoping I can survive the dysphoria in the mean…

I don’t think he ever said he didn’t realize that it would be tough and scary, but there’s conceptualizing a thing, and then there’s actually doing a thing. You think about how scary it might be to be a black man raising a black boy in a place that hates them, but to actually have a kid imminently inbound probably…

Excluding race for a second: being a father is terrifying in and of itself. Just as another poster mentioned: it’s your heart walking around on the outside of your body. Something that is horrifying but that you end up having to acclimate to as a parent.

I don’t think it is fair to say that male actors would not have faced systemic oppression if they came forward. It would not be the same systemic oppression women face, but it would be bad for their careers because of homophobia in Hollywood.

I think the problem you’re having is conceiving of sexual violence as inherently gendered.

 For me, men coming out with their stories of abuse is a positive and necessary thing because it clearly shows that these incidents are about a person in power abusing that authority. This isn’t about men being men and women putting themselves in harm’s way which is how most people would see it if only women were…

I’m glad men like you are raising the new generation of men. Gives me some hope. You and your wife will be fantastic parents even while fighting for change.

When I read the first sentence, I was initially thinking: “that’s so cruel!!”, but in reality, its brilliant. I may have to start doing this!

.... if this is satire I will gladly give you a star and possibly a COTD nomination. Please confirm if you are joking or insane.

Sorry, I thought it was about the gambling issue... I’m only just listening to the podcast.

They are still covered in chocolate. Kinder surprises are sold as food. They have value other than the toy they contain, the same cannot be said for loot boxes.

who I absolutely understand have a whole host of societal pressures keeping them quiet, but ultimately if they had come forward would not have faced the same systemic oppression from the system that women face

I dunno. I’ve had people clarify that they will NEVER spend money on anything other than the base game, simply because they assume any DLC is a cheap cash grab.

The problem with loot boxes is that they’re often the ONLY way to get certain things. In real life, if you want things, you can either work for money to buy them or gamble for money to buy them. Loot boxes take away the “work for” option and just make you gamble, and on top of that, you’re not even getting a choice of…

Blanket not buying DLC is really missing out, as there is a lot of DLC out there that is analogous to expansion packs of the old days or are entirely new games that are linked to a major release. Bioshocks Minerva’s Den and Burial at Sea are technically DLC but in all practicality stand alone (especially the former).

What does that have to do with his comment? No one is forcing them to add loot boxes either. Are you a fan of micro-transactions?

Note to self: NEVER read an article from Vanessa Marin while in a company meeting. This was WAYYYY more stimulating than it should have been. Can someone get the door for me please...

I’ve just come out to friends and family in the past few months, and it has been amazing. Being able to talk about it with people, to cheerfully share my victories and lament my losses with others, has been huge. I wear my preferred clothes out of the house with a huge smile on my face. I’ve started on hormones and I…

Charge people to come on to their property, charge people who want to throw a pizza. Make a little Breaking Bad museum in the garage. Sell your own souvenirs, rent out the back yard for pool parties etc.