I kind of agree, but the problem with this argument that I see happening over and over is that a lot of people assume there's only every one, linear cause-and-effect style dynamic going on here. I don't for a moment think this guy or anyone else wakes up normal, sees FSOG and immediately turns into a violent rapist,…

This was what I was thinking too. I've known a lot of guys move very quickly from "I think this chick is cool and would like to bone her" to "I'M IN LOVE WITH HER SHE IS AN EARTH ANGEL" when there's either no reciprocal feeling on the other side or the couple involved is so drama filled that everyone else around them…

I have to say, I've always thought of Harry as being essentially quite sweet but also very thoughtless and very easily led. It would be great if Emma, even if she was just a mate, could get him to wake up and realize the potential he has to make an impact on the world through his position.

I swear to God, my husband and I did all the difficult talks you're supposed to do before you get engaged- we talked about kids, old age, our career paths, all of that. No-one told me how to deal with your husband saying something as ridiculous as "I just don't like tile in bathrooms." I think I just stood there…

I don't think objectification would be a problem if it didn't tend to be so permanent. I mean, we all know what usually happens when it turns out the woman teaching elementary English at the local high school for a decade also worked as a stripper for 6 months in college. I'm wondering how many of the blokes enjoying…

For me it's the same thing as with Hooters in the US. I don't particularly care that there's a restaurant/section of the newspaper for people who just like to stare at women's tits and eat what I gather are "okay" wings/read bad journalism. But The Sun has for years positioned itself as a family newspaper, and I don't…

"They accuse me of being a terrible person, but won't elaborate about exactly what I've done. Well, sometimes they do, but it doesn't make sense, at least to me."

It's a weird one, I grant you. And I always thought that it was okay for married couple to have lustful thoughts toward each other? In which case, shouldn't she be wearing more leggings, if anything?

Oh I'm sure most Christians have perfectly rational ways of dealing with these things. Personally, as a non-religious person, I find it's easiest to have the lustful thought, recognize it as such, and then move on with my day, but I suppose that's really just a shorthand version of what a lot of Christians practice. I…

Pretty much this. There are plenty of men who find tights sexually arousing. I mean, I think a nice pair of opaques finishes an outfit nicely, but I've never looked at myself wearing a pair and though "Oooh, sexy." If there is an item of clothing that exists, someone's going to find it allurin'.

I've found that it's amazing how many moral and ideological quandaries can be easily resolved by replacing "Is this right?" with "Is this polite?"

Yeah, this is what confuses me about really extreme evangelical Christians (or any other extreme Judeo-Christian religion); I can accept that a religious morality code might find lustful thoughts to be inherently wrong. I don't agree with it, but I can understand it. What I don't find logical is the idea that it's…

Heck, I was born in the 80's and spent most of my childhood "free-ranging," if we're calling it that now. Neither me nor my sister were very outdoorsy (we liked reading and acting out movies we'd seen on TV. So quaint, so annoying for my parents) and my ma used to have to actively kick us out of the house to play with…

I kind of agree with you. I think these gyms also do a great job of marketing to people who've never been to a gym before, and since they don't seem to offer too much in the way of guidance or fitness classes, it's easy to see how people would get demotivated and just not go that much.

No way man. If I could afford it I'd love to do the same- having a personal trainer is always going to be better for you because they can keep challenging you and tweaking your workout so you get the best from it. My biggest worry at the gym (when I go) is that I'm spending my time and not getting as much out of it as…

I suspect that this is where my hubs and I are headed. He's a textbook ectomorph type- tall and skinny with a frantic metabolism. I don't gain weight all that easily, but once I do it's damn hard to lose again. I want to lose a little weight, but the only way I could currently do so would be by cutting my calories to…

We must be hair twins! I'm on the "still growing it out" phase of the two-year cycle. Started growing it out this time because I just couldn't afford the upkeep. For daily maintenance you can't beat a pixie, but they are expensive (I personally have never had good results from a stylist that charges less than $35 a…

Possibly. A few of these customers were older and surprisingly wealthy, and they did seem to treat the restaurant as an extension of their front room, getting narky when they couldn't have their favorite table even though they hadn't made a reservation etc. Again, I partially hold our manager responsible for taking…

The first story just remind me so much of the faux-upscale restaurant that I used to work at, with our unbearable regulars that our manager insisted on calling "My SPECIAL friends." They would invariably order stuff that was either entirely off the menu or so bizarrely specifically tweaked that it may as well have…

There are a couple of ways I can think of a chef/manager doing this, even with a cash tip (which is actually getting less and less common). I know at the restaurant I worked at, we did not receive individual tips- all tips were pooled and then divided up equally at the end of the day between servers and kitchen…