Another great point: what works for someone now might not work in the long-run. Which is why remaining open to whatever eventuality is so important. We need to stop moralizing and judging all around. No one knows where they’re going to be in 10, 15 years.

Yeah, btw, not at all insulting to imply that me being in a monogamous relationship is akin to not dating outside my race. Very cool, good work on that. But yeah, everyone should have polygamy preached to them. It’s not off-putting at all.

No problem. You don’t want monogamy, ask your wife if she’s into exploring swinging. If she isn’t, decide if that relationship’s worth it and make a decision.

Agree 100%. Was in the lifestyle for years and now choose monogamy. Swinging was cool at the time but ultimately not what I was emotionally looking for. Became monogamous in my 40’s and am much more emotionally fulfilled this way, even if a bit frustrated every blue moon. But nothing I can’t put up with for all the…

We persist in problematizing and morally censuring those involved in extramarital relationships, when the real problem—monogamy itself—goes unchallenged.

I’m so exhausted by people shitting on monogamy. I don’t shit on your lifestyle choice, don’t shit on mine. And enough with the straw men. Monogamy isn’t imperative, we never said it was. You do you and STFU about it, for the love of god.

This show is fucking garbage. Normalizing affairs and making them look ok IS NOT OK. They are hurtful and traumatic. Yeah some relationships are complicated but if BOTH partners agree with the extra person(s) involved thats ok because BOTH consented. BUT when one does it behind your back and says nothing THAT IS NOT…

This is a very problematic topic. For example, if you have two people who both agree that they will marry but will be comfortable with some straying within some specific parameters, then hey! Go for it! I do believe that traditional marriage isn’t necessarily a one-size-fits-all thing.