It’s as if non-labor activities aren’t subject to OSHA but labor is? Wild. It almost seems like labor law is a thing that, after generations of protest and activism, exists!

Hey, don’t be sorry! It’s very entertaining to hear from someone who’s exhausted as soon as someone points out even the most glaring inconsistencies in their arguments. Maybe think twice before you declare lesbians to be “the single shittiest group of people when it comes to attitudes about bi women” again, since…

No, your individual experiences as a bi woman actually don’t give you the grounds to “tell” me that! You haven’t interacted with all the various queer communities of the world, or even all the various queer communities within the US, including the ones which-witch was describing. If she/he/they had meant “lesbians,”…

I mean honestly, how many women do you know use anything else?

“Utilizing some sort of effective contraception is what a responsible adult woman who wants to engage in casual-ish sex does.” Oh, like condoms? Yeah, I agree that women should use condoms (female or male, whichever both partners prefer and have on hand at the time) if they want to engage in casual-ish sex.

Which-witch didn’t say that queer women friends of theirs who entered relationships with men had their queer identities diminished by lesbians particularly though. They said “other queer people.” Lesbians aren’t the majority (if any!) of the commenters here challenging Cyrus’s self-described attraction to multiple…

That’s awesome! The pill definitely can be great.

Yes, it’s unreasonable to expect that someone you pick up will already be on long-term birth-control with significant medical side-effects, be that a hormonal IUD, a copper IUD, or hormone shots. Those are also carry significant medical side-effects. Same would go for any women expecting a man who they pick up for…

Nah, just aware that most people learn the difference between confirmation of an expectation and a neutral question ten or twelve years before college.

What non-pill methods of contraception are you saying that “the pill” was a common term for, other than the pill itself? If not the implant, IUDs, diaphragms, or spermicide? And besides, if he was using the pill as a catch-all term for another kind of prescription contraception with significant medical side-effects,…

Whatever college you went to, it was a huge waste of money.

Saying “Hey, you’re on the pill, right?” isn’t “just asking.” It’s expecting. That’s interesting about the history of social norms around contraception, but if it was once common to expect a single woman to be on the pill (or an other non-barrier method referred as “the pill”), that doesn’t mean it was an okay way for…

See my answer to the other person who had already made that comment.

“Is there any difference if she had said “You have a condom, right?”

Good point, and thanks for the chill reply! I’ve been getting a lot of flack for thinking that men aren’t entitled to expect women to be making any particular choice about medication.

Condoms combined, sure but that doesn’t detract from the overall point. Vasectomies, despite being reversible, aren’t a good option for many men. Hormonal medication isn’t a good option for many women. I don’t think you’d find it unbelievably nitpicky if I thought it was off-base for a woman to say “Hey, you’ve had a…

There’s a world of difference between asking and expecting and between cautiousness and presumptousness. “Hey, you’re on the pill, right?” is firmly on the wrong side of both those lines.

If he wants to use two forms of birth control, great! I’d never judge anyone for that. But saying “Hey, you’re on the pill, right?” isn’t the way to go about that.

Good point, thanks. But you get the general idea—you shouldn’t expect all single women to be taking serious medication just because you prefer to double up on contraception.

No, he absolutely did. Saying “Hey, you’re on the pill, right?” very strongly implies he held a strong expectation that she, a single woman, would normally be taking hormonal presecription birth control even though she’s single.