What a tired, silly argument. No one votes for her “just because” she is a woman. She is a qualified person. Some of us are ok using gender as a tie breaker, to borrow the expression from another poster above.

I subscribe to everything you said. I was starting to feel really alone on these pages. I also like Lena Dunham though, so a couple of days ago I was told on Gawker that I need to check myself into the hospital and that I’m what’s wrong with the country. It’s how (some, ok?, some) Bernie voters like to persuade!

Amazing fertility:) were you taking antibiotics by the way? Those interfere with birth control.

I don’t share that view. For one, he may have told her all kinds of lies (“we’re staying married just for the kids. It’s an open marriage. There’s no sex” etc). Secondly, he's the one who took a vow.

I always wonder the same.

Seems like the mistresses are “whores” to her, so I'm sure she means to harm them too. Classic deflection

Huh. I’m going to have to go and try it.

Honest question. Am I taste-blind or is this hyperbole:

That’s the amazing part. I found nothing for ambivalent people. Plenty for those who want kids, plenty for those who don’t, but no... you know, questionnaire or something to help me figure out if I wanted them or not.

It’s not much better, honestly. I feel young too at 36, but I realize medical realities are what they are.

Oh man, tough situation. Glad you found a good partner though.

Go for it Mimaw. Don’t go by whether you like other people’s kids or not. It has zero to do with how you’d feel about your own. It’s just such an interesting experience.

True, I certainly didn’t get that chance (to the chagrin of my patriarchal home country relatives, who thought it was all over once I turned 30 with no kids).

This point is huge. I think many people mistake “I don’t want kids with you” for “I don’t want kids.”

Those were our proportions of yes/no too. I stopped thinking about the question of happiness, which had been my calculus before (“what if I’m miserable as a parent?”). I thought instead about the question of having a full human experience. Of course, people with no kids have a full human experience in a different way,…

I think implied in faultlessly’s comment was the condition that you have a partner you want to have kids with.

It’s great that you know what you want and don’t. I was 33 three years ago, and I kept googling “how do I know I want children.” Ambivalence is so much worse than knowing one way or another. Friends told me “well, if you feel ambivalent, it’s a sign you shouldn’t have one.” That turned out to be wrong, because, now…

Ha. Sadly, mortality doesn’t give a shit about careers and other plans we have.

I understand your point, but, truly, it’s harder ten years later. There is hard, and there is harder.

What a moving defense of a murderer and torturer. Brought a tear to my eye.