They do! Could be flattering...crazy and less attractive, what you’re *not* getting at home. Perhaps they’re looking for adventure. Who isn’t bored, at times?

And she is married too.

I told mine he could have a day or two to decide, but that we were doing marriage counseling, or going straight to divorce.

Oh shit that sucks, I’m sorry you have to deal with it.

Yes. She is a bitch. Also, she asked me to kill him for her, so I’m gonna go out on a limb and say unstable.

He may have thought something like “If I just hide all the texts this will all blow over!” But how can you have a conversation about what is going on when he’s hiding what’s going on?

Nooo oh no I’m sorry! I agree it’s shady as hell, I hope this was just a really stupid mistake on his part and not anything serious.

oh man so sorry :(

Maybe it really is nothing, but still it must feel horrible.

The fact that he is texting a woman from work at all hours, including weekends, is bad enough. That he deleted them and thought you would “read too much into them” is also bad. No...he just didn’t want you to read them.

I don’t want to scare you but my ex was totally cheating all the times he said he wasn’t. He a had a girlfriend who also didn’t know about me for the last 6 months of our relationship. Contact the lady and ask her! Your gut is always on the right track ...

I wouldn’t believe his explanation, either. And I think it’s shitty of him to be so dismissive of your concern - that is NOT cool. He owes you a full explanation. Don’t settle for less.

The deleting would be a huge red flag foe me. Sorry you are dealing with that.

Yikes. That is horrible and I’m pissed at him for already trying to gaslight you. Complain away.

That does sound shady, and all hours of the day/night? Does he text with other coworkers that often? Have you asked to see the messages? That would be the first thing. It doesn’t have to accusatory, but ask him to let you see them to assuage your concerns. If I was texting all hours with a coworker, and it really was…

I went through something VERY similar about a year and a half ago. Husband was texting a weird number all hours of the day; I figured it was old army buddies until I did some google research and found it was a woman from a Facebook group we both belonged to. He said it was only friends also.

You’ll be okay. We’re all here for you! *hugs

Way shady. Listen to your gut. And don’t let him make you feel bad about it! Damn. “Over-analyze and read too much into them.” Sorry, he’s an ass for saying that.

I hope you learn the truth soon. For yours and the children’s sake. For him to say, “oh you’ll read into it too much” means there is something to read into. Don’t let him make you feel crazy!

Shady! I’m sorry you are going through this!