Havarti grilled cheese, cornichons, merguez and healthy side of vodka!

Thanks. We're trying. It's mostly my own mother who is the roadblock. I like fiance's family just fine. It's mine that's the problem. If I could get hit on the head with a coconut and forget I ever knew those people I'd do it in a heartbeat. I am pushing for him to do a civil ceremony with me in private so we have our…

This is serious stuff, you should have a conversation with the fiance and see if you can't get back some control of the day. At least over the guest list.

Yikes!

I am still thinking the addition of basil and garlic was nothing short of genius.

Please, please hear me and know that I'm speaking the truth: you were absolutely RIGHT to cut this friend out of your life. Providing someone with a free car and a place to live does not cancel out vicious and aggressive abuse. Yes, your friend did some nice things for you, but she also did some truly despicable,…

I'm glad you got out. I had a "friend" years ago who was always "helping" people. She wasn't necessarily abusive, but after a while I saw that she did it as a way of keeping the upper hand in relationships.

I don't think there's any wrong way to cut someone out so long as you're acting in good faith. It's such a hard/awkward thing—by definition feelings are going to get hurt. If she gave you a car and did all the things you said expecting that you would owe her for life (or even for a year or two) then there's no…

I hate planning this wedding. I hate it so much. I wanted to elope but this was really important to fiance so we're going ahead with a 200 person affair. It. is. insane. At first I thought it would be fun, but it's not. I used to think a wedding was about two people making a commitment. Turns out it's about renting…

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"Food just kind of gets away from me" LOL, yer not the only one sister

OH GAWD, his senses were off.

LA Weekly's got a round up of the best Italian Delis in Los Angeles. It's a few years old though.

I would probably do what Borg said about buying food (for me, a pizza) and then savings. I had this thought today actually (I saw the Golden Girls win a lotto ticket).

I'm a stick in the mud so I'd buy Chinese food for ~10$ and put the rest in savings.

...I don't want to say this to you, really, but the last time this happened to me we got a divorce. :/

It's okay not to be into it, just as it's okay for him to be into it. I don't think it necessarily makes you homophobic.

um...yes...and we broke up. That was after a 5 yr stint of living together, the last year of which was exactly like you described. Neither of us could pull the trigger b/c well friends splitting rent and utilities us a pretty good deal.

So, I have a problem.

Anyone ever lost attraction for their partner and managed to get it back? There are quite a few factors at play here, but for the past few months I've felt more like platonic friends with my boyfriend than anything else. We finally just had a conversation in which we decided to try to have slightly more separate lives…