I have no idea why I saw your post among all these and responded to it. I was just writing about a woman I know who decided to get clean — she was a heroin addict in her twenties. This was in the 90s. She had been through some very bad, abusive rehab experiences and decided to do it on her own. When you stop using…

Ah, I see. Well, you learned a hard lesson, you poor thing! At least you know to avoid it in the future!

He sounds like a typical, deeply insecure, unhappy bully. Why is he going after her followers? What do they have to do with it? Did I miss something here? I don't even know who he is. I doubt his fame will last long — but his insecurity and misery are here to stay.

Wa...wa...WAIT JUST A MINUTE HERE! Your nym is "MyPrettyFloralBonnet" and you have a gender neutral name?! By any chance, does your mother knit you strange-looking hats? And might your name be...Jayne?!

Please never, ever have a joint account with anyone ever again. PLEASE!

I am so bad I cannot remember what race people are, so really — you guys are not alone. Don't feel bad. And some people think I am being some "oh-so-liberal-I-am-color-blind" — I am NOT. I am so bad with faces that I don't remember what a person's race is. It's awful. For years I did not know that face blindness…

It IS an awesome picture.

Take a compliment! I think you are brave and awesome. Not many people are jumping into this fray — the cowards. But you did. Good for you! You pointed out the bullshit that everyone else is too scared to mention, too scared they will be called racist. I admire what you did.

Good for you! This post of yours is BRAVE. You are going into hostile territory, my friend, but you have the guts to speak the truth and I am PROUD of you. Most people here seem too afraid to say anything.

Thanks, White Rabbit. I definitely think that is happening. People have different understandings of self esteem — what is genuine, what isn't — and that is causing confusion.

Moses had an Ethiopian wife, so I am guessing he was a fan of Ethiopian cuisine.

Well said! That smile of contentment was so beautiful! It made me wish all living creatures could feel the happiness and security so sweetly displayed in that smile.

Are you fat? It depends on whom you ask. It also depends on where you carry your weight. And you know who will give you what answer.

That was fun! I remember that in French and Spanish class, too.

Nope. I am NOT saying that bullies have low esteem BECAUSE they are bullies. I am saying that people bully because they are unhappy. Happy people, people who feel good, they don't hurt others. Think about it — when you are feeling good, how do you treat other people? And how do you treat others when you feel bad?

No, no! You MUST become curmudgeonly! Age has few joys...that is one them! ;-)

I don't think happy people bully. I think that if you have healthy self-esteem, you're pretty happy. I don't think all unhappy people bully — but I do think that people who bully are unhappy and have low self-esteem. Does that help?

I am not exactly equating happiness with self-esteem. Or maybe I am. I am saying that if you like and accept yourself, you are much more likely to be happy than someone who hates himself or dislikes himself. That seems kind of obvious.

Didn't I already mention my friend who had the best orgasm of her life after she gave birth? I think it was right as the baby came out...I can't remember. However, I do not think any woman has pleasure in labor. I have never heard of such a thing. I also wonder why you think I have. What have I said that made you…

Sigh. Now, I might be wrong — I studied this a long time ago, but I do remember reading that the high self esteem in clinical narcissism is not genuine. It is a reaction to actual low self esteem and self-loathing. That is why they cannot handle being told they are wrong — they don't have the self-esteem to deal…