Not regularly, thankfully. The most common line from straight women (for me, at least) has been along the lines of “you haven’t met the right woman yet. I’m Ms. Right. I can make you a man...”

The last one who did that had no clue that I’m not quite a 6 on the Kinsey scale, so at the party where she’d introduced…

You may need to bitch for a large number of folk who feel far too uncomfortable or unsafe to complain for themselves. (Including me...)

I’m with you on going home and crying. I’ve experienced additional abuse too many times to not weigh carefully whether I’ll speak or simply never revisit a place.

There have been too many times in my life where I’ve been seated in a restaurant or bar and then seen or heard something discriminatory. In a generally unfriendly area (read conservative, christian, etc.) making a scene, or even just noting that you find the behaviour unacceptable, ensures you’re targeted for more.

This. Every subtle (and not subtle) diminishment because we’re “other” is one more burden. Sometimes it’s just not worth fighting, and crying over the stupidity is the only answer we have left.

A ridiculously long time ago, my boyfriend took me for a lovely italian dinner in a rather upscale restaurant near our respective apartments. It was perfectly clear that we were in the conservative and almost cloistered space celebrating my 20th birthday.

The host and servers were fantastic, providing the same service…

I appreciate that you’ve apologized, but I believe you’ve a significant disconnect regarding repeated abuse.

Oh, sure! After all, between 9 and 12 years old, I was perfectly capable of consenting to sucking cock for my older siblings approval.

Go create another new burner name.

You can polish a turd...

You’d be wrong about that.

I’ve noted that now as I read further, and disengaged. I’m still leaving the comments up though: I want people to know that while there are jerks like this out there, there are plenty of good folk who understand, or try to. Some of them, like you and I, will stand up and say “hey, jerk!” enough to establish the issue,…

There’s nothing damning about the communications themselves - they’re all within the range of potential responses for victims of abuse. The loss of credibility arises only because the victims lied.

I doubt it’s Gomeshi. I bet he’s still trying to figure out how to spin this into a new career.

As a victim of sexual abuse myself, I kind of grok that. My bigger concern is showing any survivor that there are people out there who get it and will argue with the tactless, ignorant types sufficiently to ensure they’re identified for who and what they are. I think we’ll better build a survivor’s confidence through…

Thanks, I thought about it. In the end, I’d rather their tactlessness stand so others can see it and know what kind of person they are.

Oh, dear. The evidence of you being ignorant and tactless is far stronger. MRA just fits the profile.

You’re not explaining the justice system with “How about certain ideologues finally put to rest the sexist idea that women never lie?”

That explains nothing about the justice system, just about your warped sense of justice.

No, you simply pointed out differences without acknowledging the OP’s point at all. Tactless and ignorant, given the sensitivity of the subject matter.

How about certain MRA’s get the fuck over themselves?

You have no ability to discuss any considerations surrounding this trial - just a one-note responder.