One time I went to the local Subway later in the evening during high school. The only remaining staff was a middle-aged dude in a buttoned shirt and tie - the manager or assistant manager, I'm assuming. I ordered my veggies and cheese and asked him to put a little extra mayo. He smiled and said, "Wouldn't want a dry…

Working at the library, aka the day care center for unoccupied adults, the elderly were especially prone to THROWING their library cards at me and demanding their books on hold, what have you. As opposed to the other times, when we would ask for the library card and get a blank stare. For the same reason, when people…

My grandmother taught me that in a good marriage there are three entities: My life, your life, and our life together. All three must be in good working order for the marriage to thrive. Having some separate space from each other, whether it be the toilet, the tv, or whatever, is a healthy thing that helps everyone…

Cats are great at that. They also think that dangling rope ends are for them to play with.

Schindler’s Bike is going to be the name of my band.

D- - Getting hit on by the guy who vapes outside the grocery store.

That ain’t ketchup, bro.

Totally. Born in '77 here and I grew up identifying with my older cousins and their New Wave music. I went to high school in the early 90s and yet was too young/sheltered to really take part in most of the "youth" culture of the era. When I got to college I hung out with a bunch of dyed-in-the-wool Xers 8-10 years…

I was once treated to a Thanksgiving feast in the heart of Illinois farm country. Lovely people, perfectly good bird and other usual accoutrements. But then there was.... "salad." "Salad", you see, consisted of a chunk of iceberg lettuce, topped with rings of canned pineapple, a dollop of MAYONNAISE, and shredded…

Word. Technically, all forms of organized gifting - registries, money trees, dollar dances, etc. are unacceptable. The stigma against giving cash in lieu of practical household gifts may have its roots in moralistic taboos against premarital cohabitation, but it evolved into a class bias. Dealing in cash is…

Truth. I grew up in California and now live in Upstate NY. I never even heard of a Reuben until I lived here.

"There are many people who are asexual who are speaking out for it to be okay to be sex neutral and sex repulsed and see that as a part of sex positivity."

Absolutely with regard to the comments on privilege and queer identification. As a cis, pan, kinky woman with a monogamish cishet male primary partner, we have SO much privilege compared to just about anyone in the LGBT+ spectrum. Even the thought of coming out as "bi" or trying to explain the concept of…

I'm picking up an image.

Can confirm re: Binghamton. There is literally nothing fun or nice here. You can drive an hour to Ithaca to get decent food, but at the high price of suffering the most entitled hippies on the planet outside of the West Coast. I started out near Los Angeles and lived for three years in Chicago, and by god I miss…

We were really into painting rocks when I was a kid. We'd gather up some rocks, wash the dirt off, and break out the tempera. My cousin had the idea, in the mid-80s, to make rocks that said "Ethiopia" and "Kenya" to honor the victims of famine. We laid out a bunch of rocks, including the Live Aid rocks, on our…

I wrote a letter to Clinton right after the election in 92. I was in high school, so it was all of my thoughts about what would be good for the country. I got a photocopied postcard in response, and even though it wasn't a real response, I treasured it. I loved Clinton. Seven years later, he spoke at my college…

She's older than fire, twice as hot, and not having any shit. My kinda woman.

I really think the fantasy of Chistian Grey has way more to do with the allure of wealth and status than the poorly written kink. It isn't the first time - other works of erotic fiction with heavy BDSM themes also set the action amid vast, vast levels of wealth and privilege. Which says to me two things: 1) There's…

YES about being somewhat understanding that when you travel, you will be in a different place with different customs, and yes, different prices. I grew up in California, and like many Californians of their generation, my grandparents originally hailed from the Midwest. The concept of inflation and differences in…