FFS, I can’t stand subway tile. I grew up in NY, I’m not homesick for stinky station walls, no matter how fake and gleaming they are.

Considering their ties to a really horrible mega-church, I wouldn’t be against them going away for a while.

would have thought they’d be ok with a restrictive contract considering their church restricts folks’ sexualities

If you mistreated your lady, you deserve that lady rage dude. If you can't handle it, walk.

To be fair, my lady-rage comes out when it's the fiftieth time this has come up, without resolution (see also: The dishes have mold on them now, what the hell is wrong with you?). My husband hates incandescent Katie, so he tries to make sure we get a resolution the first go around.

You, sir, sound like a real prize.

This argument is beyond bogus. The way to remove this disparity is for men do more chores. Period.

If apologies came with free appetizers, I would be much more okay with them. Why don't my friends do that? :(

Self-awareness without corrective action is more reprehensible than obliviousness.

I love how someone who previously contributed "just keep your legs crossed lol lol" and "make me a sandwich bitches" and "I want to see some tits" to other threads thinks that anyone is going to give a fuck about their opinion on problem-solving and meaningful discussion.

A lot of people on the internet understand the difference between correlation and causation in statistics. You might be the first person on the internet I've run into who understands the difference between positive and negative reinforcement, and by extension, between positive reinforcement and reward, and between…

But I wasn't making a statement about your marriage — of which I know next to nothing, apart from its length — I was directly responding to the comment you had made about how women ought to encourage men to do the housework instead of "correcting" them.

One, your parents regarless of gender should have taught you those chores, not just any hypothetical female siblings, two, don't do it half-assed in the first place, three, women don't get "positive reinforcement" either when we do those same household chores and 4, Charles Boyer, you just personified that…

So... we reward half-assery? No thank you. He loads the dishwasher wrong, the dishes don't come clean, they bang and chip, OR he could actually tear the dishwasher up. So, yeah, every now and again, might not hurt to do a bit of housework and do it correctly.

Other than leaving the relationship, it beats me... My BIL does this to my sister all the time. It enrages her, so she starts yelling. He's so tenacious, he escalates it to the point of literally falling on the floor, sobbing and throwing a tantrum like a child. At that ridiculous point, she is forced to pull the…

. . .or maybe he could learn to load the dishwasher right? It's not actually that helpful that he did it if she has to redo it because he did it wrong. I'm not gonna throw a goddamned parade because a dude took two minutes to throw a couple of dirty dishes in the washer incorrectly.

My husband does this now and again.

Positive feedback doesn't mean what you think it means. It doesn't literally mean that it's encouraging feedback. It's a psychological term that's used to mean something is given as a reward — or punishment — for certain behavior.

Yes, just leave the relationship. Fascinating that this option was not mentioned in the article.

Yes! Thank you.