i believe he was convincing. i found my ex passed out with bags of heroin laying next to him and when he said he wasnt high i believed him. but lookng back on that, i realize it’s because i had to choose to believe him, or i would have to give up the guy i loved. what i’m saying is you made a conscience choice to go…

I’ve read this entire thread and I get that you need to believe he loved you because of all the time you invested, but girl that ain’t love. He didn’t love you. He doesn’t love his wife. Please don’t take this as me saying you’re dumb YOU ARE NOT TO BLAME, but you need to see that you aren’t losing a great love. This…

i dont want to beat you up- because i have convinced myself of CRAZY things when it came to my ex- but you need to stop contacting him. you’re not ready to admit it yet, but you knew he was married for a year, you just werent willing to do anything about it. i get it. i’ve been there. but you need distance. you need…

His manipulation has made her unstable. I doubt she’s manipulative.

I hate to be blunt as fuck, but he played you for two years, and you may have to accept that to get the closure you need. Honestly, someone promising to be with you for the rest of your life and saying that they love you is an easy lie to tell. Maybe he did have affection for you, but it was never priority 1 for him.

I’m going to say this and it's going to sound mean but I'm telling you this because I have been exactly where you are and this is what I wish someone had told me: if he loved you, really truly loved you, he would not have done this to you. He would have been honest with you from the beginning because that is what you…

“It’s been 9 days, and I’m so scared that he’ll never contact me again, and I’ll never have the closure I need.”

Unfortunately, yes I think you can be an accidental mistress. I believe that you loved him. I’m not sure he loves anyone but himself. Making you love him made him feel good and important. He used your attention to build himself up. As far as telling you he loved you and wanted to marry you, he needed to keep you…

This is going to sound harsh, but I couldn’t think of a nice way to say this.

I’m trying to be gentle ... but I think you know the explanation. His wife caught him in yet another web of lies, and he’s freaked out about destroying his marriage. Even though he already did. His wife probably banned him from talking with you or texting you. (Please, please, please do not reach out to his wife…

Glorious.

Thank you!