I once logged onto Jez and had an ad for a crisis pregnancy center. I have no idea how that happened. I also regularly get ads for gay vacations and “A Place for Mom” on my solitaire app...I am 30, female, partnered with a male, have never been pregnant, and am firmly pro-choice. Someone’s algorithm needs serious work.

I have been getting AARP cards for several years now. I’m thirty. The only person who calls me old is my partner. So much confuse.

Sleep paralysis is the most terrifying thing I have ever experienced. It is one of the few things that has ever made me reflexively pray to get rid of...whatever.

Jessica Jones is the best depiction of sexual assault and its lasting effects that I have ever seen. And so much of that is due to what it doesn’t show.

There’s assessing potential partners as a natural human reaction, and there’s living your whole life based on it. I can see an attractive person and register that they are someone I may like to see naked. That’s a reflex that I can’t control. I can, however, control how much I continue down that mental road. That’s…

It’s like he has never seen HIMYM and the only intelligent thing Ted ever said: “Nothing good happens after 2 a.m.”

When I asked for a herpes screening after a past partner thought he had symptoms (false alarm, luckily), I was told that if you are tested when you aren’t exhibiting symptoms, the test has a 50% accurate rate, so the clinic I went to didn’t test unless the rash was present. Which kind of left me wondering what the…

Depends on the relationship. I had a tinder hookup who deserved an award for quality pussy-eating but was such a redneck bigot that we literally made a deal to keep our conversations 100% sex-related in order to keep doing it. As soon as I found a replacement who could eat pussy and not make me want to stab him after,…

One of my proudest moments took place in high school. Lisa, the bitchy “cool girl,” called me a lesbian (an insult, as far as she was concerned). I smiled, walked over to where she was sitting, and rested my hand on her leg. “That’s interesting; I didn’t think my crush on you counted,” I deadpanned. She didn’t speak…

I did eventually get real help. Moving away for college helped, too. It’s sad that the first impulse for so many people is to look to religion to solve concrete real-world problems.

My parents sent me to a FoF-approved counselor for my depression and self-harm..he was completely useless. He didn’t have a degree in counseling or anything related; he was a retired pastor. And he told me on day one that he had no experience with anyone who self-harmed but since it was basically the same thing as an…

My ex was the villain (his mom left me her furniture; his friends openly supported me in leaving his bullshit), and I would have loved for him to bring up divorce so I could stop trying to save a doomed marriage single-handedly instead of blaming myself for not being a good enough wife.

Nothing feels better than ending a toxic marriage. And if he leaves, it makes it that much easier for his wife to let herself off the hook and move on. I’m sure he has a friend or two whose couch he can crash on and complain about his bitch of an ex-wife for a while. It’s win-win.

I was married to this guy’s doppelganger. Alcoholic, depressed, couldn’t hold down a job or keep up the house while I worked. He wanted kids but there was no way in hell I was bringing kids into that. He was verbally abusive and angry no matter what I did. I left. OOT’s wife needs to do the same. She’s already a…

Here’s my thing: each person/relationship is different. My ex-husband told me he knew I was a keeper the first time I insisted on paying for our lunch. He thought that indicated that I wanted to have an equal relationship, and that he could relax a bit and not worry so much about affording dates (we were in our early…

My partner became my partner because he is the first person I have been with who gave me the kind of rough sex I want and treated me with complete respect after. I was so used to dating the Tenderman because he was sensitive and I justified the bad sex as being the trade-off for being otherwise cared for (let’s ignore…

Here’s what baffles me: I have never had a male friend complain that a woman looked at him in a way that made his skin crawl. Every woman I know has at least half a dozen stories about a man who scared her shitless/made her feel like she needed to shower without him even having to say anything. How is it that so many…

Yep. There is no way for someone who hasn’t been there to understand...finally admitting it’s over and you can move on is the best feeling.

I love Summer Sisters! I have read it at least half a dozen times...it has held up every time.

I was raised to have the same beliefs as you; unlike you, I came away with far different views. I am wondering what your stance is regarding divorce. In the church I was raised in (Assemblies of God, if that makes a difference), divorce was considered a sin and remarriage was considered adultery per the Bible. In…