Major kudos! Setting boundaries in the workplace is difficult but so worth the effort. Go you!!!

Oh god I hate that "smile!" bullshit. You should try to smile after I kick your teeth in, bro.

Honestly, I'd say just be real and true to how you feel. You don't have to be offensive or go into gory details. I'm sure there were many wonderful things about him, and then there was the addiction. Speak from the heart and get your point across but be tasteful if possible (I'm sure it's possible.)

One of my breasts is noticeably smaller than the other. We are talking a D cup on the left and a B-to-very-small-c on the right. Sometimes I use a filler in one side of my bra, sometimes I don't. Every man I've slept with has been way too concerned with touching/sucking/loving on them to ever comment on it. Fuck…

Throw mama from the train, yes. And when this girl is an adult making her own food choices she can re-enact the frying pan scene with this woman.

I have never been able to have an orgasm with a man that I did not share a substantial emotional connection and verbal intimacy with. So that would count for 3 out of 6 partners. Granted, I haven't had a casual encounter since being date raped in 09. I recently attempted sex with a guy I went out with a couple of…

This. It's ALL about proper styling and dressing in a way that's flattering to your body. I'm pear shaped and I make it a point to wear stuff that's slimmer on top and forgiving in the hip/thigh region.

Girlfriends need to eat some carbs to their heads right ;)

Exactly. I'm ample in the hip/ass department, and every man I've dated has loved it. (As do I, now.)

Wow, she sounds like a certified badass. Great advice.

My dating life got a thousand times better when I stopped breaking my neck to anticipate the guy's desires. Grow a set and be yourself, and be honest about what you want. Casual sex isn't my cup of tea, I do want a monogamous relationship, yet I need a decent amount of alone time, etc...once I was able to be up front…

Yep.

Seconded. I love intimacy. Beautiful, comfortable bras, and the staff at the one i go to in Dallas are very personable and knowledgeable.

I think she looks really good.

I am really sorry this happened to you. You're definitely not alone, something similar happened to me and only in the past year did I cut out the self blame shit and start holding my ex responsible. Healing is real, but it does take time.

Ugh, this. I left college and got a professional license/certification for my current job in healthcare. I've wanted to go back to school and study counseling, but thinking about student loans and hellacious interning churns my stomach, and makes me want to cling to my current position for dear life.

Just wanted to say thank you for posting this. I'm in a really similar position to you and working my ass off to heal so I can build a good life and a healthy family of my own someday. You're right, few people look at their shit and do the long, hard work of the soul, and it sucks when you can't identify with others…

My mom has had issues with drugs for most of my life, and I grew up pretty neglected and abused as a result. I lived with her sister for a short period of time, and she turned out to be bipolar and violent. It's safe to say they had a hand in a lot of the depression, guilt, fear and anxiety I felt growing up. I really…

No no no no no no no no NO.

An awesome one.