Dear lord that boy has a big glass house and a lot of stones he'd like to throw.

I haven't been shaming or questioning you. All I did was point out that the drawbacks you list in women your own age (lack of energy, health issues) can also apply to men your age (and you). That sword cuts both ways, is all I'm saying. The question I did ask of you was in response to your assertions that you'd never…

But you'll be older and lack that energy just as much as a woman your own age by your own logic (and really. . .your average late thirties woman has plenty of energy). I mean, the twenty-something may be the primary caretaker, but you'll still be a parent. You will still need energy to raise your children. And while…

A woman in her late 30's would be too old to have children?

At 43, you don't have a lot of time yourself if you want to have kids. There are risks associated with that. If you finally meet someone within a year and then wait a few years, you'll be in your late forties. A lot of the women I know would be reluctant to have kids with a guy in his mid-late forties. He just…

Where did I say that people should date their own age? I said that a 10-year age gap is not close in age.

I'll bet my mortgage payment that he's a regular on 4chan.

What you're showing is that they'll message women younger than them—50 year old men will message 40 year old women., not 50-year-old women. A 10-year difference is not "close in age." And it shows that many of those guys won't even consider a woman who is exactly their age.

You could say the same thing about men though, since they think 20-year-old women would be attracted to their 40- and 50-something asses.

Yeah. If any of my women friends did that, they'd be in a world of trouble with the rest of the friend group.

(Note: I know you don't believe the argument—I'm just parking this here.)

And I'll bet after a woman dumps his ass, he'll complain WOMEN ONLY CARE ABOUT YOU IF YOU HAVE MONEY.

I'm with you. The little game of "I will pretend to not want what I actually want and put it all on the women" is, at *best*, irritating as hell. You wanna play games, bro? Go get a checkerboard and get gone.

"Unless his butt is really good at typing out accidental text messages?"

I agree, but even a month wouldn't upset me if a dude faded out (unless we'd been seeing each other constantly or we were intimate and it was clearly NOT a FWB situation—and in that case, by "upset," I'd be more "Ugh okay").

They're not in a relationship, though. I've been ghosted by someone I had been dating for several months, and it does suck. But a guy I've been out with once, twice, or three times? Meh. Really, you shouldn't be picking out the china patterns and buying baby name books.

Yeah. When friends of mine opened up to me about stuff in their pasts, I shut up and listened and was glad they felt comfortable enough with me to confide in me.

Okay. When you are the target of a crime or any sort of fuckery, (you know, your email getting hacked, you credit card account or bank account hacked, your car getting stolen, your house being broken into, your pocket being picked) I hope people tell you how dumb you were. That they aren't victim blaming but wow you…

This article wasn't about password security.

Calling someone who's been violated this way "dumb" is a shitty thing to do.