I’m just an androgynous smiley face with two strands of hair.

lol sir or ma’am I don’t know what that means and— to be honest with both of us —today is not the day I’m gonna learn

Does this mean we have to put the toilet seat down?

I didn’t know you could do that from inside the kitchen.

Which one of you broads can punt a football the farthest?

well, i mean, it’s an anon account, not like I’m putting my name to it, but I do think it’s important to be vocal in my opposition of this particular body shame because of the very reason you’re talking about: nobody wants to speak out against small penis shaming because of the implication.

To be fair, I don’t think she’s put much thought into the male side of things.

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Yeah, I think a great deal of gentleness is called for, for both male and female psyches, which in my experience are usually very sensitive in this area. (Though it sounds like both of us have experienced exceptions to that.) “First, do no harm” is not a bad rule of thumb here.

That’s the first thing that crossed my mind.

Thank you so much for this. I had the same problems with a couple of partners. And then, when I try to “speed up,” there are complaints of being too rough. And then:

I understand that these things can be nuanced, but the reason your profession exists is because men and women are bad at picking up on each other’s nuances. This article reads like the communication breakdown is the man’s fault and only the man’s fault. Total bullshit. No guy starts a relationship as…

If I followed the “it’s about her pleasure, (not) her orgasm” mantra, my marriage would just be me giving foot massages until she falls asleep.

That'll really set the mood.

Agreed on almost all points, except:

I appreciate all the advice. Perhaps some of the men do get worked up about their partner orgasms and their ego. But I bet more men obsess about them because a) it’s hard not to feel selfish when you orgasm and she doesn’t, and b) there is the perpetual stereotype about the awful men who just get their rocks off and…

“Everything everyone is doing offends me.”

First, let’s dispel the myth that it’s a myth that women’s orgasm isn’t more “complicated” than male orgasm’s...obviously it is. The female orgasm is rooted in much more than physical stimulation...men, mostly not.