I for one can’t wait to see Christopher Plummer in Deadpool 2.

describing the woman making the accusations as jealous and unstable

I’d say this
1) clearly yes, it is worse, no one is arguing otherwise
2) but is still bad, like beating someone is bad but less bad than murder but still bad, and people with a history of non-murder violence (sometimes called “assault”) are still untrustworthy as are folks with a history of non-rape sex crimes…

‘Masturbation by boys isn’t normalized in our society either’

If you think she’s basically a narcissist, I think you don’t understand what narcissism is. It’s not narcissistic that she creates an idealized version of him...that’s kind of what happens when you start having feelings for someone. She goes through with sex she doesn’t want to have because she thinks stopping thugs…

“Have you ever had to ‘perform’ knowing that your performance will be judged by her (and maybe her friends) afterwards?”

So in reading the story you didn’t pick up on when the dynamic shifted? When she went from being curious about a consensual experience to feeling obligated to allow it to progress? She consented because she didn’t know how to stop it without offending the man whose home she was isolated in.

“and she thought maybe this is what she loved about sex”

Like lacking the skills to navigate consent efficiently. Understanding ones own sexuality, understanding ones own body & how to enjoy sex physically.

Deer has a history of comments that are the equivalent of “Actually, let me tell you what it’s really like for people who are not me”. Seriously, not worth your time or anyone else’s.

They are not equally horrible and she is in no way giving off signals of abusive behavior.

Yes. Women and men are perfectly equal, racism is solved, cats and dogs live together, and inexperienced 20-year-olds are on a perfectly level playing field with mid-30s individuals.

Are you serious?

I guess I don’t understand what your criticism is. The story tells her thought process as she’s pursuing a relationship with him. The character in the story doesn’t “write a screed,” she has thoughts. There is nothing I see in those thoughts that paint her as “insufferable.” She’s assessing, to herself, his…

Insecure man in his mid 30's pursues a flirtation with a collage age girl. When she shows genuine interest his anger & innexperience taints the interactions. His only recourse is to exploit power dynamics. He internalizes all of her reactions including not wanting to go on a date at her workplace & dressing…

Just reverse the genders and ask yourself how this story by a guy would be reviewed by jezebel

She told him she wasn’t interested and to stop texting her. His response was to go to a bar he knew she frequented, and then KEEP TEXTING HER, violating her clearly established boundaries, and doing so in a shitty, nasty, slut shaming way.

She comes off fine in that story. There’s nothing all that terrible about judging someone as you’re deciding whether to pursue a relationship with them. She questions his taste in movies? She questions his attractiveness? She questions his sexual performance? Yeah, that’s what you do when you’re figuring if another…

You also never met a woman who keeps texting you afterwards just because she doesn’t know the meaning of ‘ one night stand’. Yes, those exist as well. That doesn’t make her a misandrist, just clingy.

Man, if that’s all you got out of the story, I definitely don’t think your reading comprehension skills are really up to scratch. It wasn’t my favorite short story of all time, but I thought it was a very good dissection of the ways in which confusing power dynamics between men and women interact, and the way in…