I think I’d only be okay with it if the guy had talked to his girlfriend about it too. Because can you imagine if she wasn’t sure about him? The pressure to say yes would be horrible. I’m generally not a fan of public proposals for that reason.

While our ire at a wedding being upstaged was misplaced in this case, I still think it is a good rule of thumb not to propose at someone else’s wedding. It doesn’t feel very representative of a couple’s vibe/mojo/personality to me.

This kind of thing seems to happen a lot on the internet.

It seems like a very characteristically second-wave response to transgender women. There seems to be a kind of aversion to the notion that gender is in, any way, inborn, that there is any validity to the notion of “female” and “male” brains. This seemed very characteristic:

I have a feeling OP’s gonna be fulllll of questions.

no joke, it’s because of his penis size. his leaked nudes are floating around the internet and the boy is pretty well-endowed

I would agree that the last thing we need is more feminist factions, except that that’s already an established faction. The “trans women are not real women so therefore they don’t belong in women only spaces and their voices should be essentially silenced, etc. etc. -insert more transphobia here-” faction is a…

Nothing you say has any value in this discussion because you linked to an article in which Caitlyn Jenner is misgendered a half a dozen times in the first couple of paragraphs. Trans women are women and there is no place in modern feminism for this bullshit.

Yeah, I’d agree.

“People who haven’t lived their whole lives as women, whether Ms. Jenner or Mr. Summers, shouldn’t get to define us. That’s something men have been doing for much too long. And as much as I recognize and endorse the right of men to throw off the mantle of maleness, they cannot stake their claim to…

This paragraph made me headdesk:

This:

WOAH i couldn’t even finish it. that article was truly awful. it completely denied the rights of trans women to be called women, amongst other things. it completely invalidates their realities. i’m a little disgusted it was published tbh. i’m not sure why its okay to consistently and proudfully declare trans women…

I just read the article and I think it is fascinating because it echoes my mother’s thoughts about the way Caitlyn Jenner talked about being a woman in the first Diane Sawyer interview. She is uncomfortable because in her view transgender women focus on looking stereotypically female. For example, she didn’t like when…

We have to listen to the voices of ALL women

I’m intrigued by the juxtaposition of this essay (which was great) and her media persona. I can’t be the only one that’s slightly disturbed by her Lolita aesthetic. If you told me she was 12 instead of 21, I would believe you. Don’t get me wrong, this isn’t criticism directed at her. I’m sure her team is mostly…

I’m really loving this recent surge of female “teen pop” artists saying they're feminists. This is such a good influence on young women.

Yeah...no. We like it for what she said, so you can leave the race thing out of it.

Well referring to Caitlyn as “Bruce” and using male pronouns. She’s a woman.

its wrong to degrade her with the snarky term ‘newly minted feminist’ when it seems that her whole family is pro-femme and has most likely, grown up with these ideals...