Agree with everything you said.

I agree with you, especially about the fact that when people aren’t rich, the assumption is that if you’re unmarried and without kids, you’re childish and selfish. I posit that it’s childish and selfish to enter into both marriage and parenthood simply to check off some boxes. When you become a parent, you are now…

George Clooney was considered an eligible bachelor for a very long time. He isn’t one anymore, seeing as he’s married to an incredible woman and is also a new father to twins. I personally don’t find value in him, but I was using him to make the comparison that a 50 something year old man can date women decades…

I’m 33, and just like you, I knew I was probably never going to get married or have kids when I was 21-22. I’ve been in hella long relationships, but I’m a willful and independent-to-a-fault person. I like my space and my time, and I’ve never been someone who needs another person to find fulfillment in my own life. I…

Thank you! Sorry, I just saw your comment. My notifications have been a little hairy.

I gave you specific instruction on how to do better, yet here you are, responding without even reading. Not surprising that you’d also criticize my original response even though you wrote me a several paragraphs long diatribe. Maybe you haven’t figured out that I don’t owe you anything yet, so let me go ahead and…

Daniela, please know that you were never at fault. You were not at fault for freezing up, you were not at fault for being intoxicated and you’re not at fault for “letting it go on”. The only person who is at fault is the one who chose to violate you. They are solely responsible. I hope you find peace and healing,…

Man, a lot of people are kind of missing the point. Yes, too many of us have been subjected to verbal abuse at work, that doesn’t mean it’s not (a) harassment (b) a hostile work environment. This is not a “bad boss”, this is an abusive boss. Someone who berates and belittles you, especially someone who signs your…

Thank you, love. And same, I felt so sick reading those comments. We’ve been swallowing this poison down for too long.

We all want to believe that we would have slapped Ansari and left in a hurry, but the reality is so many of us have been in Grace’s shoes(many times over), and our flight or fight responses were exactly the same as Grace. I know it is hard to keep adding to our ever growing list of violations against us, but we cannot…

I am so sorry for what happened to you, Red. I wish I could hug you and tell you that you were never at fault. I was also raped by my most recent ex the same way and it also took me months to reconcile what had happened. Too often, we are violated by the people who we trust because they have built this facade of being…

How did he conclude that everything was “consensual” when he never sought her consent in the first place? This is not some naive man who’s never been on a date before in his life. This man wrote a whole book on dating and sex in the digital age. I have posted other comments that detailed the numerous times Grace…

Hugs to you, Dino. We shouldn’t be constantly subjected into accepting our abuse as normal, our degradation. I cannot stand by in silence anymore.

Thank you, you are too kind. I am not a parent but this is just what I would teach them because it’s what my parents taught me.

How you can do better is by doing everything the opposite of what Ansari did: pay attention to your partner’s body language, but also ask them if they are comfortable and if they would like to proceed. Check in on them to make sure they are on the same page as you. Often, in the heat of the moment, it’s easy to get…

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I addressed this in other comments, but men are socialized to not accept no for an answer. Of course, the responsibility is with the family to raise their children to accept no, but society as a whole reinforces that a man can wear a woman down if he’s persistent enough. This is harmful, plain and simple.

Wrong. Repeatedly disregarding her explicit no, and repeatedly putting her hand on his dick after she moved it away is assault.

You’re welcome. It’s sad to see a supposedly feminist website tear down a woman and dismiss her feeling of violation.

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