get some pepper spray to keep on a key chain, just in case .
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I have had two family members work in airlines and be members of their unions. Neither of them were thrilled with the rules, because they thought they didn’t always make sense.
Has anyone called the police? Unless the young lady’s, um, baby daddy (?) is her age or younger, in most states, that’s statutory rape. Many of these girls’ boyfriends (?) turn out to be much older, which is actionable in almost every state in the union. It may not help her very much, but it could save the next…
When i was in 8th grade I was riding my bike and got hit by a car. It was totally my fault and not that big of a deal but because I hit my head on the pavement and lost consciousness for a second I was taken to the hospital and they took x-rays to see if I had a concussion. Before doing the x-ray the tech asked me…
Quite the opposite.
Don’t try to think of things to say. Be serious, quiet, and busy, as if you know what you’re doing. If there is anything logistical that you can do for her, do that—childcare, driving a relative into town, laundry, phone calls, cancelling engagements/making appointments.
I second everything Marillenbaum said and add two things. First,acknowledging that her grief is valid is so, so important - let her feel what she’s feeling and offer validation (e.g., it is sad, it is shitty, it doesn’t make sense, etc).* Sometimes when people try to make those who are grieving “feel better,” it sends…
My ex-BF’s 16 year old cousin died by suicide two years ago and it was a complete and utter shock. It wiped everyone off their feet. Going through the memorial and funeral service was surreal and everyone was just numb with grief. My ex-BF saw two different therapists and I think that helped him a lot. I saw his…
Sure, it could work and be okay. But you can also have an abortion and be okay. You have two beautiful kids already, and even if life with a third child could be fine, there is nothing wrong with deciding you want to keep the life you have. You described feeling viscerally that you don’t want another child. It sounds…
You will make the right decision.
I’ve lived here a long time. The King County Republicans have shown they have no problem financing and implementing dirty tricks.
“Gosh, wealthy powerful white men have it so tough, it’s lucky for them that we’re all willing to work so hard to give them the benefit of the doubt when it comes to sexual assault.”
I got my dream job. Literally my dream job. I start in May. I am freaking out. I now have to quit my job and move and start this huge new process but I’m so fucking thrilled and I can’t believe it. Holy shit. It’s not quite official but I’m waiting for my contract to be sent to me (Tuesday) before I announce it but…
I’m a sex worker. I don’t mind anyone raising questions or asking about context.
That is the most troubling aspect for me.
The quoted article says that in 1986 consent was 16. So definitely statutory. Sex workers can also be raped, so if he assumed he could do whatever he wanted because he was paying, he was wrong/a rapist.
Sex workers are a population that is very vulnerable to sexual and physical abuse.
This is the quote from the Times that truly concerns me.
I have the new Chappelle line stuck in my head now. ‘He saves, but he rapes. He saves more than he rapes, but he *does* rape.’ It was about Cosby, but goddamn. The man is the prophet of our time.