I need this in my life and I’m not even a “bag” person.

It’s not my bag but I wouldn’t have an issue if it were a 100% consensual above board type situation. Thing is, it doesn’t seem to be.

This is such an excellent comment about this situation because the term sexually coercive is the perfect way to describe what was going down. It’s the exact thing I thought when I saw the images without actually having that term to describe what I was thinking.

I think that most folks here are not familiar with the ins and outs of Greek life so they paint it with a one-size-fits-all brush when stories like this happen. I get that reaction. However, this type of shit isn’t super prevalent among all frats/sororities. Greek life in general depends on where you go to school and…

No one joins a fraternity because they want to excel academically or participate in philanthropic activity.

I really don’t think it’s a stretch to say that we don’t know all the facts so we don’t know that it was definitely assault. HOWEVER, it looked like an assault on the dude with a drunk crowd of people around egging it on. Also, strippers, sex workers and anyone else on the “wrong side of the tracks” can and do get…

Honestly, the vid was disturbing. I didn’t watch it either but just from the stills they showed in the Gawker article, it was very “assault-y” and, I think, inappropriate to link to.

No worries. It’s cool. I just think people don’t understand lupus and when they think of it, they think “outwardly sick” and that’s not entirely true. It depends on what organs it affects, the treatment course and the person affected.

My aunt had lupus and didn’t look sickly either. It affects people differently. Eventually my aunt died but she didn’t look sickly until the very, very end.

Lol, I’m aware but most folks on here don’t understand Greek life. I just said former because it was the first word that came to mind. I guess inactive works well too though.

Let me tell you that the most successful couple I have ever known have done couple’s counseling for almost their entire relationship. People would ask them why they did it if their relationship was successful and they always replied their relationship was so successful BECAUSE they did couple’s counseling. They just…

#Lies

Yes. Anyone who stays with someone who treats them badly suffers from a weakness. It’s not strength that compels folks to stay with people who are shitty. Not sure why that word makes people feel uncomfortable but it’s not the wrong word to use here. The weakness can be complex, multi-layered, generational and more…

Thank you. It’s certainly not a strength to stay with someone who is shitty to you in any form. Because it’s a weakness doesn’t mean it’s not multi-faceted and nuanced. It just means it’s not done out of a sense of strength and that is absolutely correct.

Yeah, that actually can be a stretch. Some parents use spankings as punishment and it doesn’t extend to their spouse because they don’t believe it’s abuse but a tactic to correct behavior in kids. I don’t know her story, but a person can certainly abuse their kids physically and not their spouse or vice versa. In…

It depends on who you ask. To me, as a former member and decent human being, I don’t care. Join whatever organization you want. But, to others deep in the whole Greek life thing, they would see it as a slap in the face and would not support her efforts at homecoming or anything else.

That’s still a BS question, even with the full quote. Had she have asked if the drama helps her creative process and then cited examples like you did, then I’d still not like the question but I’d understand it. Nicki explained that she thought it was uncomfortable and sad what is going on with her label mates and…

And she answered the initial questions about that drama well. However, when the interviewer came at her with that BS question about the drama, she was having none of it. No one here is saying the initial question about the circumstance or her answers to it were wrong. But that “drama” question was BS and Nicki called…

I think it’s condescending exactly because it’s anti-woman. The interviewer asked that questions as if Nicki wasn’t aware enough to pick up on how bullshit it was, which is where I see the condescending nature of the exchange.

Absolutely not. She could have joined a traditionally black sorority but she didn’t and the pride of any of these organizations and ESPECIALLY the black sororities would not even allow them to entertain letting her go through the pledge process. Most of them would see her actually joining a non Divine Nine…