Yes! I am NOT exotic. I was born in fucking New Jersey.

Ha. Sounds that way doesn't it? Would be a good story.

(White) boy I've gone a few casual dates with told me he doesn't think race exists.

I don't think so. Having bad credit usually means you have not paid particular bills that were owed to you (usually - but even if something is wrong on your credit, there is a dispute process) and therefore, it's not meaningless if someone's using it as a gauge to figure out if they want to choose to loan you…

Um. My mother or father will probably come live with me in my future house one day. It's what my grandparents did (all 4 of them, though 3 are dead now) when living alone became too difficult. It was actually a wonderful experience - I got to have a much closer relationship with my grandparents than I would have…

I have this exact problem. It's not like I want you to do anything morally questionable or that would put either of us in danger - but can't we have a swirl of chocolate in that vanilla?

Oh hey, you can see a sex shop from the window of our restaurant! Have you ever been in one? What did you think? I saw some crazy porn in there about being into spinning around on ice skates while naked with a person being dragged behind them in a chair, it was nuts.

$43,451 on shirts?

I straight up cannot afford summer electric bills. Cool down! (And I keep my house WARM most of the time!) Usually my bill is like $26. Last month I ran the AC for 8 days and it was $56. I'm afraid for this month...

I have broad shoulders so sometimes have a similar thing happen (and definitely know well the dressing room panic of "omfg, they're going to have to cut me out of this dress and I'll have to buy it"). One thing that helps is if it's something you really like, at least with dresses, is having a tailor insert a zipper…

I posted this in last night's OT this morning but can we discuss the absurdity of dudes that think it is acceptable to PUSH YOUR HEAD DOWN onto their genitals when they want a blow job? Because like, yes dude, I know you want me to lick your penis. If I decide I want to, I'll start doing it. I don't need your helpful…

Apparently I also told him if I was a lady, I would have gotten "adorably tipsy" and cabbed it home. Which doesn't sound nearly as fun. So I agree - BS.

Yeah. He was drunk too, in fairness, but I *hate* that move. Seriously dude, if I want to put my mouth on your penis, I will do so with no prompting. Shoving my face into your genitals is a good way to get a black eye.

A little bit hungover. Got (slightly) too drunk last night. Agreed to go out with dude I've been on a few dates with that is nice enough. Took a death defying cab ride (9 people in one cab? NOT SAFE.) and then went out to the bars where I drank more. At that point, nice dude says, "You can crash at my place if you…

No, but a lot of old mills in the northeast have been turned into wedding venues - mills where women as young as ten were forced to work 18 hr days with no breaks, etc etc.

I get that horrible things happened at plantations - I really do.

I get a lot of "Yeah but what's your REAL name?!"

My friend in the army sent me a link to this story with the subject line "God damnit, it coulda been me."

It is and it isn't. I get wanting to date someone you share a cultural background with - hell, I have dated Indian guys. But I will definitely feel objectified if I feel like you went to OKC, set your search parameters to "Indian" and shot me a message based on that.

I am fetishized often in my OKCupid profile (OKC is pretty much predicated on pictures, it seems like, so no hiding of ethnicity there). I think a lot of the responses I get on OKC (not all, but I'd say a pretty substantial amount - maybe 80%) are either because of or in spite of my race. Ie, the idea that race didn't…