Every subordination kind of kink involves some abdication of adulthood. It can be nice for an hour or two, maybe two nights a week. If you need it more than that, though, I agree — get thee to a therapist.

A former co-worker tried to claim that Jezebel was “a radical feminist blog” and I laughed in his face super hard.

This reminded me of the adult babies, too. I understand the need to unwind and chill out, but having to adopt a non-adult / non-human persona to be able to achieve relaxation strikes me as, again, not entirely healthy.

Why is Jezebel associated with man-hating in pop culture? I’ve been coming here daily for four or five years and have never felt that, nor have I ever felt that my (infrequent) contributions to comment sections were unwelcome and I’m a cisgender, heterosexual, white man.

Yeah, that seems similar to the diaper fetishist kink where there’s this desire to abstain from the responsibility of the adult human identity. Just go to therapy and grow up.

That line broke my heart. Both of them are settling: the dog guy for not feeling like a “stray,” Colin for apparently putting up with someone who doesn’t love him just to have a relationship.

YOU AND I ARE ONE.

“Then I had this moment of panic because a puppy without a collar is a stray; they don’t have anyone to look after them. [...] It’s a sad thing to say, but there’s not love from the heart in me for Colin–but what I have got is someone who is there for me and I’m happy with that.”

This doesn’t sound super healthy? If…

Hey, if they’re not harming anybody. Though I do think it seems like a lot of trouble to go through. I do wonder about what we’re gonna be like in 50 years when he says:

This was exactly my thought- fetishes always seem like a lot of work.

Or do you??? What if you “discover” your kink in a few years and it’s something like you don’t want to eat regular bread anymore and you want to have gluten-free bread? The horror!!!!!!!!

Yeah, that was “holy shit fuck no” territory. Got no issue with people’s private kinks (shit, I domme a guy who is into this soooo) but that is fucking disgusting and I would have a hard time not resorting to fisticuffs if some jackass stranger or coworker “nipped” my shirt. Boundaries, learn them.

Far be it from me to tell consenting adults what to do, but whenever I read about stuff like this I always wonder, how do you discover that this is your kink? Do you see dogs and think, ‘that looks chill’? Because I don’t have a kink (yet) and if I am missing out on something I want to know.

Is there where I get to complain about how *after* I quit my job at Bank of America, I found out I was blocked from a promotion because, despite my boss, his boss, and several peers recommending me enthusiastically, the boss above them had an uncomfortable boner for me and said my attire was inappropriate?

“Even when I worked in PC World I would sometimes walk up to people and nip at their shirt. I got in trouble once; someone walked into the PC repair centre and I had part of their dad’s computer in my mouth. But the other staff knew I was like that to everyone. They didn’t find it weird.”

OH MY GOD SAME!! I call it being “accidentally cute”

THIS. I have never been what anyone would call well-dressed, but I either wear nice jeans & a nice top, or a dress, because skirts that squeeze your belly all day are for the birds (and who has time to match TWO THINGS). I buy my winter tights a size too big, and throw an over-sized sweater over a dress. It’s…

I wear dresses, leggings, and flats because they are easier to put on. A couple of months ago my coworker asked if I constantly wore dresses as a “religious thing” which I found odd because the dresses I wear aren’t very conservative. Her eyebrows reached a new level when I explained that I do it because it is…

“You need to dress properly - it’s about respect!”